Fearless Lover: The Spiritual Foundations of Present, Boundless and Enduring Love
Do you believe in "falling in" love? Or "finding" love?
Or have you discovered that love is something you create, that you generate, refresh, nourish and inspire, day by day, minute by minute, breath by breath, choice by choice?
It turns out, that love is like an ember that requires us to ignite continuously with the sweet breath of our devotion, imagination and courage.
If you yearn to create a life full of ever-deepening and ever-expanding love, yet find that you carry fears which hold you back, then you have found an invaluable ally in The Fearless Lover.
Is it possible to continually open your heart and be the source of love that your lover, your family, your friends and all those whom you love yearn for you to be? Is it possible to handle and dissolve those fears that hold you back from being that person for them?
It is possible. But it requires a passion for wisdom, and the willingness to put into action some solid, doable practices.
The Fearless Lover is about your becoming, every day, step-by-stumble-by-leap, a more fearless lover of life and its pleasures, most especially where it is both hardest and most gratifying ndash; as a passionate intimate lover of your beloved partner(s).
Each week, The Fearless Lover will bring you wisdom ndash; and simple practices - from all around the world, from the Toltec to the Tantric, from the Kabbala to the Christian, from the Sufi to the Sikh and beyond, in order to explore daily practices that help you open your heart into being the Fearless Lover you may aspire to be.
Hosted by scholar, writer, producer and teacher, Adam Gilad, The Fearless Lover will bring you interviews on wisdom and practices from all traditions, with spiritual leaders, writers, thinkers, noted psychologists, scholars, ethnologists, noted cultural creatives and visionaries.
The single goal: to bring, week after week, the most potent and grounded tools and wisdom from around the world in service of you growing into bolder love, more playful intimate communion, and a life of creativity, adventure and joy.
Because, honestly, what else is there to do?
Current Podcast Episodes – Always Free!
Episode 17: Your Love Widget
This week, Adam reflects on a comment by Joel Osteen, that toothy evangelist of the Prosperous Christ. When we truly believe in what we create at work, we throw ourselves in heart and soul and assure success. What if the product of your creativity, your widget, was not a web design, a crafted contract or mended teeth. What if the "thing" you created daily, the object of your focus and your creative efforts, your "widget"… was love itself.more.
Episode 16: Celebrating the Masculine and Feminine with Rajyo Markman and Britta Johnson
We stand at a confusing crossroads of history. Women are discovering their masculine side just as men are discovering their feminine side -- the gender equivalent of tornado conditions! Sadly, there is much bitterness rather than curiosity, recrimination rather than exploration. My guests this week, Rajyo Markman and Britta Johnson, drawing on several traditions including that of Osho, discuss their life-changing workshops, where men and women work with, and support each other through… healing and new openings to love.more.
Episode 15: Learning Practical Steps to Decouple Fear From Our Moment-by-Moment Choice-Driven Evolution with Guy Finley
How do we let fear fun our lives? The better question: how do we learn practical steps to decouple fear from our moment-by-moment choice-driven evolution? This extraordinary dialogue with Guy Finley, teacher, spiritual master and director of the Life of Learning Foundation explores how fear and the projection of fear undermines our ability to experience what is truly happening in any moment, as well as our ability to fully love those whom we love in true freedom and openness. Based in Christian mystical teaching, but resonating with deep Taoist and Buddhist understandings, Guy Finley will not only change how you think about fear, but show you boundless horizons of joy, freedom and opportunity on your path to love.more.
Episode 14: Love Beyond Your Story with Jim Dreaver
This week, we talk to the remarkable Jim Dreaver, who does every listener a service by moving us past our individual stories. Does it mean anything to you when I say it is possible to love someone "through" themselves to something else? You could call that something else could be their core, their divine masculine or feminine essence, their highest self, their highest intention or, if you like, God. Deep loving, I believe, grows from the ability to love another through - or beyond - their personality. To stay locked into your story, or your partner's story is a recipe for dissatisfaction and nit-picking. Listen to Jim, deeply grounded in the advaita tradition, and see if you agree. Then let me know what you think…more.
Episode 13: How Spiritual Grounding Supplies What Therapy Can't with Richard Platt
In this episode, we speak with the insightful Marriage and Family Therapist, Richard Platt, who with his wife runs an exciting phalanx of traditional therapeutic and bold workshop practices. As a shrink, Richard discovered that traditional psychology often misses the deeper mark: namely, connecting to root source, touching the core of being. In essence, knowing that you have the power to start over, again and again and again. It is the idea, as he discusses, that "initiation is available in every moment."
This is a powerful, refreshing and inspiring concept. In fact, in my opinion, it can serve as the foundation of a moment-by-moment practice that can turn your intimate life into a broad, easy river that washes over the little dams that our fear quickly assembles to undermine the love we truly are.
Listen, open and enjoy!more.
Episode 12: Spiritual Love Relationships
This week, I talk to Lorraine Platt, who, with her husband, runs a thriving Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists/ Relationship Development practice just north of San Francisco. What got my attention was the deep and broad rooting in spiritual practice and spiritual traditions that Lorraine and Richard bring to what might otherwise be what David Deida, for instance, calls, "second stage therapy." Most therapy intends to help heal the wounds of the past. Lorraine's work also helps men and women look forward boldly. In this interview, we discuss her Buddhist roots, serious practices for men to learn how to feel and listen to their bodies, and how women (and men) can embrace a kind of powerful caution that is devoid of fear. Their goal, which is the goal of the Fearless Lover is to create, foster and explore relationships that are not merely good, but inspiring.
For more about Lorraine and Richard, go to passionpurpose.org
Episode 11: The Obvious
"Have you seen the movie, The Secret? Have you read the book? Bathed in "The Secret" Bath Salts? Buy "The Secret" infused spring water? Well, some of the secret isn't so secret and some is hokum. But it did jolt another title into my head: "The Obvious." With all the well intentioned "how to create the life of your dreams" intentionality and huckstery P.T. Barnumbification of the American mind, a truth burned through to me. An... obvious truth. And it reminded me of a startling conversation that Ram Dass had with a mysterious seeker early in his travels in India. This Obvious Truth struck Ram Dass dumb when he realized how it stripped him of all the security blankets he had piled on top of his naked, loving soul.
This week, we throw off some of the blankets that we have consciously or unconsciously smothered over our ability to love in any moment. And, it is my secret -- and obvious -- hope, to help you breathe love more freely, here and now.more.
Episode 10: "Follow The Love" Part 2 with Gino Yu
This week we continue our discussion with Dr. Gino Yu of the Hong Kong Polytechnic University. Dr. Yu is a unique amalgam of media savant, spiritual seeker (and finder), neuroscience enthusiast, loving father and husband, visionary, composer and… rapper.
How can you communicate an inner state? How can you expect that when you say, “love” – your partner understands the word, “love” in the same way?
This week, Dr. Yu gets into the three ways we communicate our inner life: mythology, art and ritual.
What fascinates him, and what we can apply to our daily lives is that the core of all of it – mythology, art and ritual -- is the attempt to communicate one great truth, and that is this:
“The experience of right here, right now… it’s good to be alive.”
From this anchor, he argues, you will find wells of wonder, gratitude, joy… and love.
And, tying in our discussion last week, we explore what distracts us from that fundamental knowledge.
I dare you not to feel provoked and inspired!more.
Episode 9: "Follow The Love" Part 1 with Gino Yu
This week I begin a fascinating discussion with my friend, the multivalent thinker and creator, Dr. Gino Yu, Director of the MulitMedia Innovation Center at Hong Kong Polytechnic University, of all things.
Dr. Yu is on the global forefront of exploring how media can raise consciousness, help us let go of our fears and unwanted emotions, and cultivate the life of love and awareness we all desire.
Of particular interest, listen for Gino’s idea: “follow the love.”
Love is always there. As he says, you don’t have to create it, you find it, which is often just a process of stripping away of what’s covering love. It’s always there. As Gino says, “all emotions are rooted in love, even those you don’t think are love.”
Yu urges us to dig beneath surface communications. Where investigators say, “follow the money,” he counsels, “follow the love.”
I found his insights on using breath to bring unwanted emotions back to love illuminating and hopeful!more.
Episode 8: Rabbi Bradley Artson
"Love is never displaced by additional love, it is enhanced, because all of our different loves are expressions of the one embracing love."
In other words, your capacity to love is infinite. So says our guest this week, Rabbi Bradley Artson, Vice President and Dean of the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies at the American Jewish University in Los Angeles.
Rabbi Artson is a passionate, brilliant, warm and sensible presence on the spiritual scene, and I wanted top share his down-to-earth spirituality with you.
Listen especially to his ideas about how love recycles -- the more you give it, the more it engenders more love. He calls it "mutually reinforcing love" For example, knowing that it's possible to love a spouse strengthens our love and trust of others, and of the divine. Cherishing ourselves allows us to receive unconditional love from without.
Love doesn't compete with love. Love multiplies love.
I found this interview particularly inspiring and encouraging.
And I'm convinced you will, too!more.