Episode 68 - Deliberate Orgasm: Learning How, from Basics to Mastery. (Part Two): Dr. Patti talks to the Welcomed Consensus

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Patti Taylor: Welcome to the Expanded Love Making show. I am your host Dr. Patti Taylor of expandedlovemaking.com. And I teach you how to make exquisite love. This is part 2 of a two part series. Today we will be looking at deliberate orgasm, learning how, from basics to mastery.

How are everyday people going to learn, what some people have spent a lifetime perfecting behind bedroom doors.  You would be surprised that just how much unique and highly exclusive information, our guest today, have been able to share about their profound teachings.

Our guests today are two women, who have devoted many years of intense research in experience on this topic, Françoise Devresse & Susan Tarantino.

Françoise Devresse: Well, we know, we do a demonstration of a woman in orgasm for an hour. And we want to show, what is possible and people actually, student get to watch her cum for an hour.

For example, she likes to feel his strokes being lighter. So, this is how this would go.

Susan Tarantino: I would say, I am so glad that we are having this date together, the tension that makes it feel good. Would you use a lighter stroke?

Françoise Devresse: Oh absolutely, I would be delighted to.

Susan Tarantino: Oh! That felt so good, I love how you lightened up just a little bit like that. Perfect!

Françoise Devresse: Right and communicating wit each other in a winning way only makes things more fun. And it’s really a simple tool to learn. It’s very easy to learn. And it’s just a question of deciding to use it.
It just creates beautiful orgasm and that’s the beauty of it. I was going to say that, with your partner that, through using these techniques, that you actually can get around to the place, where he can give a woman a better orgasm then she can give herself.

Patti Taylor: Welcome Françoise and Susan.

Françoise Devresse: Thank you

Susan Tarantino: Hello Patti.

Patti Taylor: Yes welcome back, I will say Francoise and Susan are instructors in the Welcomed Consensus, which is an internationally known organization, teaching sensuality and sexuality. Founded in 1992, they offer courses on sensuality, communication and intimate relationships. They have an incredible DVD video library and they teach courses. And have a great [xx]. We are going to find out all about this.

So, on today’s show we are going to talk about how you can understand the relationship dynamics that go on between the giver and receiver, of Deliberate Orgasm, which is what they call their practice. We also call it “The DO” and then learn about the incredible programs and DVDs that the Welcomed Consensus has made available, to bring their knowledge to you, in so many ways.

Let’s get going. Let’s start with relationship. We promise we get back to men, haven’t talked too much about them. Let’s find about women, of course if mummy ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. Ain’t that true?

Susan Tarantino: That’s right.

Patti Taylor: That sounds like we got mamma pretty happy here. She is incredibly gratified, and orgasmic and in her pussy power. So what about the men?

Françoise Devresse: Well the beauty about it is actually that, the first part of it is that, man that discovered this technique and use it with their partner, say that actually how much happier they are themselves , that they feel that they can produce this great orgasm in their women’s body. And it takes great deal of pressure off of them because, by doing them, they get to create that orgasm in her so easily. And keep on making it better.

And the other part about it is that, all that apply to a woman actually applies to a man. And often time, men that used to master this technique say that, they feel that their orgasm expands themselves. That the same kind of model of expanded orgasm that, they started to experiencing that in their own bodies from having wanted to produce in her body.

And the women can learn to do the man, exactly the same way, using exactly the same concept. And it’s another fun way, to another something to add to their sex life.
Patti Taylor: Wow, that’s a lot of information right there. But first of all, I just have to impact that, it takes a lot of pressure off of him, when he can get her off and I think that’s really true.

Susan Tarantino: Yeah, that’s right and he feels successful. I mean he has a woman that is gratified and happy. And she is filled up with orgasm and he is winning with her. That’s what guys want, they want to feel that. They want to feel like they are succeeding and they are winning and giving their women what they want.

Patti Taylor:  You know and, I don’t know how to say this politely, so may be I’ll just say it. But if a man doesn’t want that, what are you doing with him, right? [Laughs]

Susan Tarantino:  I lecture in to that, I guess. But, let me rephrase that. I have never met a man, that didn’t want to make a woman happy. So, I don’t even know one, OK. So, I guess, I can even conceive of that because every man I have ever met is dying to make a woman happy and just would pay a million dollars to figure out how. You know, its like, everyone was like, if only I knew what she wanted. And they are so exited when they can find out how.

So that was the first half. And then the second half was, they figure out, how to extend their own orgasm. There is a result, that [xx] imagine from what you said that the woman figures out from having it in her body, how to be a better giver.
Françoise Devresse: Right, she can use the same concepts in doing him but also simply from him learning. Because one of really important component of Deliberate Orgasm is actually communication. We believe that sex is the [xx] of communication.

 And so it really is a wonderful addition to people sex life, where they get to talk to each other and saying what they notice and she can talk about what she is experiencing. And she can talk about how she would like, may be to experience new things.

And then from there and learning to extend her orgasm and giving her that kind of orgasm. He will also, can learn to relax his body and go more on a ride, whenever in his orgasm. So all the same concepts really do apply. And she can use the same concept when she is doing him.

Patti Taylor: OK, so now you guys have a video, you guys, gorgeous, beautiful women have … your group has a DVD on communication. Can you, the two of you role-play a little communication for us? So we get an idea of what kind of communication might work during in due date.

Françoise Devresse:  Yeah sure, for example, let’s say that she has discovered toward exploring her own body. That for example, she likes to feel his strokes being lighter. So this is how this would go.

Susan Tarantino: I would say I am so glad that we are having this date together, the tension that makes it feel good. Would you use a lighter stroke?

Françoise Devresse: Oh absolutely, I would be delighted to.

Susan Tarantino: Oh! That felt so good, I love how you lightened up a little bit like that. Its just  perfect!

Françoise Devresse: And as the giver I would say, oh I could feel actually that sensation, shooting right through my finger in to my arm. And your clitoris just engorges to [xx] my finger.

Susan Trantino: Oh, I thought that too. It felt so good.  I would love that. Would you use a lighter stroke?

Françoise Devresse: Absolutely, I would love to.

Susan Tarantino:  Ah, thank you, that’s [xx] better.

Françoise Devresse: Oh, now your clitoris got a darker shade of red and it’s even more engorged. I love to see that.

Susan Tarantino: I love it too. It’s so good.

Patti Taylor: Wow, so… that got me turned on. That was hot. So I could imagine how that would actually spice up a date, you know that kind of communication. And so, you have a whole DVD on communication.  Your DVDs are phenomenal. I have to say.

Françoise Devresse: Right and communicating with each other in a winning way only makes things more fun. And it’s really a simple tool to learn. It’s very easy to learn. And it’s just a question of deciding to use it.

Patti Taylor:  Let’s talk about some more of your DVDs because I love them so much. You know, I get turned on by your DVDs. I think the energy goes right through the TV screen. I really do.

Françoise Devresse: It is our intention, so that the people can feel that orgasm when they watch it.

Patti Taylor: I think your original one, Deliberate Orgasm; I have to say is a classic. And I know you have a new one that’s: Three Minute Orgasm” and you are really exited about that. So why don’t you just tell me, what you are so exited about, is it because we are living in such a busy world today.

Françoise Devresse: Well, we know, we do a demonstration of a woman in orgasm for an hour and we want to show what is possible and people actually, student get to watch her cum for an hour.  And so a lot of people would say, well actually, we don’t have time for an hour orgasm and so we want to show that it’s really quite easy to have a three minute orgasm everyday.

Everyday you could decide first thing in the morning, whenever you get up, that you are going to have a due date. And there you go; you start your day with pleasure in your life. And it has quite a big influence on people day and the way that they relate with each other. And you could be doing the same thing as meet up with each other at the end of the day. Take three minutes, it is actually so easy, and yes we do live in a very busy world. And two or three times, three minutes per day is only nine minutes. That’s a lot of orgasm and you can be gratified in nine minutes.

Susan Tarantino:  And it’s do-able.

Patti Taylor: Also, I think there is something to be said for… Sometimes starting with a small chunk is easier to swallow. So, like you said, to have a small goal, is an easier and more achievable goal. So, if you are intimidated by having an hour long orgasm, or even a 15 minute orgasm. You know, having a three-minute orgasm, could lead to an hour orgasm.  No one says you have to stop in three minutes, right?

Susan Tarantino: That’s right, absolutely.

Patti Taylor: It might be easier for some people to share. So, what are some other videos that you think that you are really exited about? You just did one…

Françoise Devresse:  We actually have it. We have female masturbation collection, where the woman demonstrates using the Deliberate Orgasm technique to learn, about their own body. And our new female masturbation video is called: Better Female Masturbation and a Better Sex Life. And we love this video because the woman in the video shows, how exploring her body and finding about the things that she likes using this technique that she actually got to learn, how to had better orgasm and then tell her partner about it; and it would enhance her sex life together. And we love that.

Patti Taylor: Is that the one with Daisy in it, the porn lady?
Susan Tarantino: And Daisy, actually, she had a fun story because before she started taking any sensuality courses, she used to masturbate, with using her finger right on top of the hood. She used to think that her clitoris was too sensitive to touch directly. And through taking some of the sensuality courses that we have offered, she had learned to touch her clitoris on the gland directly, and found out that there was more sensation and more fun to be had. And she now, she loves that and she shows how she is doing that.

And she has also learnt to relax. She just turns up and just goes quickly over the edge. But now she has learned to relax and expand her orgasm.  And she shows that how; she uses that also, in to her sex life.

Patti Taylor: Yeah, I thought it was a very impressive video for number of reasons. First of all, it does my heart good, being in the field that I am in, to see women modeling things other than standard porn. So, and she has this real grace and dignity, and beauty, and composure about her.  There is some thing so; I don’t know her energy, is just so beautiful.

Susan Tarantino: It is.

Patti Taylor: Yeah, you can just feel it. There is stillness to her, and a vibration to her, and there is a subtle energy, and the beauty, and I might…  Ahh!! And I love that women can see other women. This is not exploitative, it’s intimate. And it sort of looked like it was made by women, for women.

It’s that women model again. And there is so little of this out there. Its tender, it’s very tender, and delicate. And it’s just like, am I seeing this? This has got to be so amazing that a woman could watch this and see this. There is more out there. That was very touching thing to watch.

Françoise Devresse: Well, thank you. We will make sure to touch.

Patti Taylor: Glad to hear that

Susan Tarantino: And because that is one of the message that she has been wanting to get across, and we have been wanting to get across.
And the beauty of it is that, it is all inclusive in to the relationship with her partner. And sometimes people have this feeling that female masturbation tips away from their personal sex life. But we wanted to make sure that it is inclusive and that actually enhances finding out about the things that you like.

You have to know what you have to start out with and the kind of touches that you may like. And then you get to explore more of that with person that is, your partner. And it is beautiful.

Patti Taylor: I just quickly, one of my, I think, may be one of my favorite DVD is your one on Peeking…  your DVD.

Françoise Devresse: And so, that’s one of the things … in addition to on that. If we come back around …

Patti Taylor:  To tell people what Peeking is, I am sorry to interrupt but, Peeking is deliberate stopping and starting. And you actually have a DVD on that. And I just want to say, I think that’s what takes you out of basics and in to mastery. And it was so well done, so just very quickly. Francoise, you were in that one.

Françoise Devresse: Right, I am actually, yes [Laughs]. I love Peeking. We guess Peeking, is very well expanded.  [xx] is to live deliberate interruption and then building of the sensation, you can expand the orgasm and actually make it more, what we call it dome-shaped orgasm.

 We can [xx] the intensity and extend it for as long as you want.  Because you basically are vary in to intensity and then so you can keep on stroking for as long as you wish. And its just creates beautiful orgasm.

And that’s the beauty of it; I was going to say that with your partner, through using these techniques, you actually get around to the place where he can give a woman a better orgasm than she can give herself. And with a luxury.

Patti Taylor: Yeah, so all and all, I know that you have more DVDs. I just touched on the few that I liked. We are going to go for a break now but, I think our listeners, I am sure you are turning flattered and happy that I love them. But I think our listeners deserves to know that you guys are offering some phenomenal DVDs out there, that will bring your teachings to people that want to learn that stuff.  It’s really just some amazing footage out there. I love to watch them myself and, every now and then, I just watch them. They are amazing.

So, anyway, we are going  to pause for a break, This is Dr. Patti Taylor and I am here with  Françoise, and you can learn more about the Welcomed Censuses at there website welcomed.com .We will be right back.

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Patti Taylor: We are back and we are talking about Deliberate Orgasm, from basics to mastery. So, we are coming in to the final touch, why don’t just find out little bit more about your organization. You do some other things too. You teach courses from basics to mastery including, you have one where, in basics to basics, the one where people will watch a woman cum for an hour, right? 

Susan Tarantino:  Yes, we do. It’s called the observation of intense Cuming. And it’s a lecture discussion and we talked about it before during and after. And you will seewomen in orgasm for an hour. And its dome-shaped orgasm we [xx] along way. It’s a very fun course and we love teaching that course.

Patti Taylor: Ohh, that sounds like a great course.

 Now you don’t have to clothes off for all your courses, do you?

Susan Tarantino:  No, absolutely no [Laughs].

Patti Taylor: Darn, have to kind of work right through the system there, right?

[Laughs] I don’t wane take your clothes off for all of them you know, and to know people. There are actually a lot of fun courses and its all on your website. So I recommend people to go welcomed.com. And you are in the number of cities too. So, that’s a really fun thing.

And you have the Clitboard, which we talked about before, which serves like a clipboard but you call it   Clitboard. Can anyone read that?

Susan Tarantino: Anyone can read it and anyone can [xx] to it actually.  It’s a great place to ask questions. If you have any questions and get feedback from other people, as well as from the instructors. There is actually an archive of where there is a lot of information on orgasm and relationship on that Clitboard.

Patti Taylor: It’s got a huge amount of information and they can even talk to you on there, cant they?

Françoise Devresse:  That’s right, they can ask any question they want.
Patti Taylor: Any question they want, I think that’s great. So, they can reach you by phone, they could… So what kind of courses do you teach?

Françoise Devresse: Well some of the courses right now, that we actually love so much, is that we are offering now from sensuality retreats. Because we have had people that come from all over the world and from out of state.

 And who want to come, so we offer an environment of three day retreat or, a there to five day retreat, where people can come and they don’t have to worry about anything. Their lodging and accommodation is handles. And we can put all their focus on to where they want to go in to the next place in their sensual life.

And we have a very basic one, which is called the sensuality introductory retreat. It’s a lecture discussion. It includes the demonstration of woman in orgasm for an hour. And it really is for everyone, whether you are single, or partner, men and women. It will enhance pleasure in all areas of life regardless, of proficiency and experience.
Patti Taylor: Well, I want to go, I want to go. But, I am just going to have to  keep watching all your great DVDS.  Our show is coming to a close. So, before we go, I would love to find out if you would like to just give us, one parting final thought to send us on our way here.

Françoise Devresse:  Well, I have to say that we are talking about the men and the women. And I have to say that women want orgasm, they want a lot of it. And there is usually more than what they are willing to admit. And learning about Deliberate Orgasm is a great way to have better communication between partners. A woman can learn to find out what she likes and then talk to him.

Tell him what you like; tell him your true desire. And from there she can explore her sensuality and then together, they can explore their sexuality together, and have a lot of fun. It’s a great format, it’s a great gift. And a man can learn, after time to give her a better orgasm than she can give herself and it’s a wonderful gift.

Patti Taylor: Yeah, I can not agree with … that’s right on. And also, it’s not really a man’s craft to learn, how to do a woman. And they will go to places. They just have never explored before, how fun it is for them to go on that kind of journey together. A man can feel so successful with the woman learning how to give her an orgasm. And guys they really want to know, what women want.

So, when two people are willing to communicate with each other on that level and find out, what their desires are. It’s a fun process and it’s a life long process. So, have a great time and enjoy yourself along the way.

Françoise Devresse : Yes, Yes, so thank you.

Susan Tarantino:  Thank you so much for having us on the show Patti, we really so much enjoyed it.

Patti Taylor: Me too, I am Cuming my heart out. Thank you so, so much. So that brings us to the end of our show. Thank you once again. I am going to make one request for my Personal Life Media. I am going to ask you if you will take five minutes and help fill out an anonymus survey for my show. Which helps me understand you better and create sponsor confidence, and allows us to sell advertising on our show. So, I can support the work, I love to do. And you would do this by going to survey.personallifemedia.com.

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