Episode 78: Joy Has No Contradictions

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“Suppose you want to study painting because to paint is the joy of your life, and your father says that you must become a lawyer or a business man, otherwise he will cut you off and not pay for your education; there is then a contradiction in you, is there not? Now, how are you going to remove that inner contradiction, to be free of the struggle and the pain of it? As long as you are caught in self-contradiction you cannot think; so you must remove the contradiction, you must do one thing or the other. Which will it be? Will you yield to your father? If you do, it means that you have put away your joy, you have wed something which you do not love; and will that resolve the contradiction? Whereas, if you withstand your father, if you say, “Sorry, I don’t care if I have to beg, starve, I am going to paint,” then there is no contradiction; then being and doing are simultaneous, because you know what you want to do and you do it with your whole heart. But if you become a lawyer or a business man while inside you are burning to be a painter, then for the rest of your life you will be a dull, weary human being living in torment, in frustration, in misery, being destroyed and destroying others.” ~ Krishnamurti from Think on These Things

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Joy Has No Contradictions

“Suppose you want to study painting because to paint is the joy of your life, and your father says that you must become a lawyer or a business man, otherwise he will cut you off and not pay for your education; there is then a contradiction in you, is there not? Now, how are you going to remove that inner contradiction, to be free of the struggle and the pain of it? As long as you are caught in self-contradiction you cannot think; so you must remove the contradiction, you must do one thing or the other. Which will it be? Will you yield to your father? If you do, it means that you have put away your joy, you have wed something which you do not love; and will that resolve the contradiction? Whereas, if you withstand your father, if you say, “Sorry, I don’t care if I have to beg, starve, I am going to paint,” then there is no contradiction; then being and doing are simultaneous, because you know what you want to do and you do it with your whole heart. But if you become a lawyer or a business man while inside you are burning to be a painter, then for the rest of your life you will be a dull, weary human being living in torment, in frustration, in misery, being destroyed and destroying others.” ~ Krishnamurti from Think on These Things

Wow. That’s worth a re-read. We’re ALWAYS faced with a choice: acquiesce to the demands of our society (whether that’s our father or our spouse or our colleagues) or follow our deepest wisdom. One path leads to “living in torment, in frustration, in misery, being destroyed and destroying others.” The other path leads, quite simply, to joy.

We talk about this A LOT. That’s deliberate. And, it’s impossible NOT to talk about this theme because ALL the great teachers point to the fact that we MUST honor our individual paths.

Maslow says:“What one CAN be, one MUST be.” [Emphasis mine. :] And, he admonishes us: “If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”

Gay Hendricks, in his great book The Big Leap says: “You know deep inside you that you will never be fully satisfied until you have anchored yourself in your Zone of Genius. To do less would be to hold back, and long ago you made a handshake deal with the universe that you wouldn’t do that. The seductive comforts of success, though, can lull us into accepting the status quo. In that state of comfort, it’s easy to forget the deal you made with the universe to use yourself fully.”

Castaneda tells us to follow the path with heart and when asked how we figure out what the path with heart is he tells us that we all know, only few of us have the courage to live in integrity with it.

Abraham-Hicks tell us that our primary job is to seek joy--something we can only experience when we’re honoring our deepest desires.

How about you? Do you have a “contradiction” in your life? Are you out of integrity? Living a life planned by someone else? What do REALLY want to do with your life?!?

(And do you want to be on your deathbed wishing you went for it? As my friend and mentor Gay Hendricks once told me, he’s never met anyone who, on their deathbeds said, “I wish I had been more reasonable.” Hehe. How about you? Now a good time to go for it?)