Episode 84: Infuse Your Life with Enlightened Love (Part Two) with Satyen Raja, Tantric Master and Founder of WarriorSage, Inc.

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Dr. Patti continues talking with Satyen Raja. We have already learned it's possible - even fun, and incredibly rewarding - to learn how to be better lovers. Discover next how we can tap into our deepest essential beings, our souls, and our hearts, by engaging our love energy. Learn some practical things we need to contend with as men and women. We work in a world that often challenges both men’s and women’s natural lover identities, and so, what we can do to help our partners? What we can do in the bedroom to take on both male and female energies? How can we increase our range in our own sexuality? What do we do with all this loving energy? Does it end with ourselves and our partners? Or can we spread it out into the world? if so, how? Is this a blissful experience? Join as Satyen shares with us a phenomenal visualization and meditation that energizes our full being – one you can use in your own lovemaking practices. Truly an amazing, uplifting and dynamic show!

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This program is intended for mature audiences only.

Patti Taylor:              Welcome to the Expanded Lovemaking show.  I’m your host Dr. Patti Taylor of expandedlovemaking.com and I teach you how to make exquisite love. This is Part Two of a two-part series. Today we’re talking about infusing your life with enlightened love. Satyen Raja, who we’ve been talking about, combines the power of the warrior with the wisdom of the sage to inspire audiences worldwide. And we have been discussing how we can create sexual passion and love in our life. So how hot is that? We’ve been learning how to be better lovers and now we’re going to talk. What can we do with this loving energy? Does it end with ourselves and our partners or can we spread it out into the world? And if so, is this a blissful experience?  So, we have quite a show ahead and let’s get started.  I want to start with how this works in a little more detail. So, we have been talking about each of us being a mix of masculine and feminine. Want to just continue?

Satyen Raja:            Certainly. Each of us has more of a masculine or a feminine essence. So you can have a male person who has more of a feminine essence or a male person who’s more in the center balance.  Or a male person who’s more in the masculine. Now most males are in the masculine end of things, okay, in the spectrum of masculine-feminine energy, which means they’re more motivated by the search for freedom.  To break out of the constraints of life. To find direction in life.  To navigate life’s circumstances. So if you look at a more masculine person, like myself as an example, over a year…I mean I love all types of movies but at the end of the year, if you were to count up how many movies were related to war movies or thriller movies or one man against a mountain or an army or something like that or James Bond movies, more having to do with there’s  a constraint or restraint and how’s this guy going to get out of it or how are we going to break through? I watch way more of those movies than I do Fried Green Tomatoes or love stories. But I love love stories too. So we’re not absolutely one or the other. We have both but we are skewed.  Now my wife’s the opposite. She watches seven out of ten movies are love stories.  But once in a while she likes watching UFC ultimate fighting championship with me.

Taylor:            We were talking about that in the bedroom. For example, I tend to be really into surrender and I love it when the guy calls the shots. “Hey, lie down here. I’ve made it all look good. Do this. Do that.” I love that. I love being told what to do. But then when it’s my turn, I’ll turn around and do the same thing.

Satyen Raja:              Exactly. Exactly. And so once we realize…another way to tell how are you, are you more masculine or feminine, a way to tell is in your fantasy life. In your dreams, in your fantasies is your lover the same size? Are they bigger and taking more charge or are they smaller than you and you’re taking more charge of them more often? So if it’s more often, they’re the same size as you, you’re more in the center. If more often your fantasies involve being taken, being ravished, being surprised, being absolutely taken agog, if you will, okay? Smithereens, loved so deeply that you’re just blown wide open, then you’re more feminine.  If you’re the one that’s gazing, grabbing, pressing up against the wall, penetrating with your eyes, your heart, your genitals in a way that says, “You’re mine. I love you. I’m taking you” then that’s more of a masculine skew.

Taylor:            Well now what do you do with, someone like me and I’m sure a lot of people would say, I would say that I have a very strong feminine energy. That’s really clear. But then I would say I have an inner male. Okay? I mean, you know…And so, don’t we all have –

Satyen Raja:              Here’s the thing: we like it all. Every person who’s interested in sexuality loves the whole spectrum. But to keep it erotic…Let’s say for example, if my wife who’s more feminine, only took me most of the time and ravished me most of the time, then that’s great for the first little bit but it would start to stifle and depolarize our sexuality. If I was only surrendering to her then for a period of time, all the time, then she would start to depolarize.  Here’s the secret of sexual passion for a lifetime. You ready? Two poles, there has to be a strong masculine pole and a strong feminine pole so an arc of electricity can go between both. Just like a magnet. All right?  Now. So let’s say I’m a fellow. If I’m strongly in my masculine, my woman is strongly in her feminine, there’s incredible sexual passion and tension. Now if she decides at any moment, “Hey, I’m going to play the masculine lead” then she will do that.  I‘ll relax a little and take the feminine. So it’s not about one being one all the time. That’s boring. Anything that you do all the time is boring.

Taylor:            Is it boring, isn’t it? Totally boring.

Satyen Raja:              Exactly. We’ve got to create that strong lead. Now here’s the thing that I really want to get across. There’s a lot of people who have a masculine essence by nature and a feminine essence, like couples, but the feminine being is overly exerting masculine energy all the time. And then there’s masculine folks who are overly exerting feminine energy all the time. And they become buddies but they lose their passion because they haven’t polarized their energies.

Taylor:            Well now what do you do…we live in a world…I hear what you’re saying and I’ll bet you get a lot of commentary in your workshops from women that work. Right? And go, “I can’t help it. I have a job. Blah, blah, blah.” What do you say to them?

Satyen Raja:              Historically, in our work we talk about three stages –

Taylor:            And I’m compassionate. So I’m not putting them down. How do you help them?

Satyen Raja:              I understand. Well, you see when the woman, who’s feminine by nature, overly works or is spending a lot of time working…you see, the working world is extremely masculine.  So when she comes home she’s tight, stressed, tired, exhausted.  Same with the guys. A lot of guys are overworking nowadays. It’s important for couples, as well as people wanting and yearning to attract a new partner to them, it’s important that you replenish yourself. So, for ladies who are working hard, when you come home from work if you have a partner, guys, poor a bath tub for them.  Every day. Do something surprising.  Put some oils in their bath. Put some candles and a nice music.  If you’re a single woman, do this on your own. Take about half an hour to replenish your feminine energy, your essence. That way, when you meet as lovers, rather than coming home from work together and just saying “Hi. Hallo” and keeping it neutral. Take a half an hour not to see each other; replenish yourself in two separate bathrooms or in a tub. One person go, then the other person go.  And then come and see each other as lovers. “Hey lover. How are you?” And I’ll tell you something; most likely you wouldn’t want to talk about work so much. Because now you replenish your juice, you’re there as a lover. So my wife is not just my best friend. She’s my lover first, then my friend.

Taylor:            I love that and I want to bring up another point which I think work…and let me ask you use opinion. Don’t you think it’s possible that work also feminizes men very often?

Satyen Raja:              Well, it depends on what type of work it is. a lot of guys, just by the reaction to what happened…for a thousand years a lot of men, our fathers and so forth, were overly directed.  They were working their buns off and they came home to put bread and butter on the table and then they died years late. So there was a cultural evolution that happened with men where they started saying, started happening in the sixties, “We don’t want to work as hard as our fathers did. We want to get more in touch with the flow of life. We want to get more in touch with our heart. We want to get more in touch with love. We want to say I love you and so forth.” So men started growing their feminine side, which is opening their hearts to love.  But what started happening was they started eroding their true masculine essence. So a first stage, or an old school man, is a lot of spine, meaning a lot of direction, knows what he wants, but he doesn’t have a big heart. He hasn’t learned to Or hasn’t learned to love and feel into his partner’s heart. A second stage man is who’s learned to open his heart but he’s lost his spine. He’s become the typical new-age flow-ster guy where he has no direction anymore and it’s like, “Hey. Whatever you say, love.”  A third stage man, what I call a warrior-sage, is a man who’s learned to open his heart to love. Learned to open his heart to his lover, to his family, to his community, to spirit, to God. And he knows where he’s going. He knows his direction in life and he knows what he must do so that he can die complete. Now, every man has that warrior-sage within him.  It just has to be unlocked and released.

Taylor:            Well I really love what you’re saying.  I think the point I wanted to say is, I see a lot of men, they come home from work, they’re working in a big grey box and they’re working on cycles that may last for years. They’re not feeling their purpose. They’re not seeing the fruits of their labours. They’re not getting the acknowledgement. They’re not getting the chance to stand strong and firm. And I think there’s an opportunity for us women to, where a man comes home, when a man can pour a woman a bath, what can a woman do to help that man feel more manly in a sense?

Satyen Raja:              Oh! That’s a great one. That’s a great…One of the first things to do is when  you look at your lover…Let’s say you’re a woman and your man’s a masculine being, downtrodden…you have to get that the masculine is always looking to escape the burdens of life or to get rid of them or to unload, okay, the stresses. So when you look at him, the moment you look at him when he comes home from work, you see him as a weary warrior and then you tell him, “My weary warrior, come let me replenish you. My weary warrior, come let me press you.” You bring him a glass of water with flowers in it.  You bring your body, your flesh, your juicy goddess nature, after you’ve replenished yourself first, okay? And you bring that to him as a lover.  If you can’t do that to someone you love, then who can you do it to?  That’s what sexuality between a divine couple is meant for. So treat him as a weary warrior that’s about to go off to war tomorrow.  This may be his last day with you. How are you going to treat him so that he’s going to be running back tomorrow? You know ladies how. Us men worship your body. Us men worship your flesh. Us men worship you as a juicy manifestation of the divine. So use it ladies. With the men, see him as a weary warrior. Offer him your unadulterated love, sexual heat and passion as well as the sweetness of your devotion to his deepest purpose in life.

Taylor:            Well we are going to take a break right there. That is so beautiful. So I’m just going to be right back. This is Dr. Patti Taylor and we’re talking with Satyen Raja.  I’m going to spell that. S-A-T-Y-E-N space R-A_J-A. That’s Satyen Raja. And you can find our more about Satyen Raja at his website, warriorsage.com. I’ll even spell that.  W-A-R-R-I-O-R-S-A-G-E.com. So please stay with us.

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Taylor:            We’re back.  And that was so beautiful.  What a joy is it when a man has been treating me like a goddess to be able to offer that to him, those little tiny gestures. Because they do, they go out into the world and we live in such a big world.  I personally just want to say that I’ve done little things like ask my guy to unscrew a bottle cap and that’s the biggest success he’s had all day. And they’ll take any little chance to be a success, any reason to be a hero. Men are starved for an opportunity to shine for us and you give them a kiss or a hug to thank them and they’ll take it. We are starved for acknowledgement.  So I would not underestimate the chances we women have to just contribute.

Satyen Raja:              You see, when you’re…As a woman, when you feel into a man’s heart, in a man’s heart is his deepest desire heart to serve the world open to depth, to something greater. He may not know what that is or he may know what this is and that form of it changes through his lifetime. When you become devoted, not just to him as a simple guy, but when you allow your heart to be devoted to his deepest purpose, then what happens is it evokes his sexual energy. He feels it. And the way you can do that is, “Honey. I feel how much you’re doing for me.  I love, I trust you. I trust you.” So for feminine beings to offer to a masculine partner, more trust, deeper trust, showing him your bodily trust. Showing him, not always cutting him off, cutting his balls off all the time, questioning everything all the time. Questioning, is it right or wrong? Is it right or wrong? Are you doing it right? Trusting him. And you what? He’s going to make mistakes, just like every other human on this planet. But when you offer him perhaps more trust than he deserves right now…Now this is important. Again, this is with a good man. I’m not talking about any type of abusive man.  I’m talking about a good-hearted man. When you offer him more trust than he may even deserve, than you even can see and you show him sexually how you want him to take you deeper, how your eyes are yearning and inviting him to penetrate you deeper.  How you’re allowing your body and your sounds and your coos and your moans to be invitations for him to penetrate you with, not just his sexual organs and his hands and his body, but his very soul.  You show him through your eyes, your vulnerability, that you’re wanting him to guide you deeper, then he’s going to go, “Wow! What an incredible woman! She’s trusting me.” If he’s a good man, he’ll respond to that trust by allowing his warrior to grow and then he’ll, with sensitivity, start to navigate her through touch, through kisses, through romantic escapades, through surprises, through sometimes just jokes and crazy, wild, masculine, funny, strange humor. Appreciate him for being a warrior in the world, no matter who he is.  And when you continuously appreciate him, he’ll start to appreciate you for being the juicy radiant goddess that you are. And your fucking on all levels will go through the roof.

Taylor:            Okay that does it! I’m, inspired. Oh wow! Okay. So what happens when we do this? I’m starting right away to up my program, which I though was pretty good. But obviously there’s even more and more. Now what happens when you actually get so full, you talk about this, you’re blissful in your partnership, we followed all your suggestions, we went to your workshop, we followed everything, we’re off the Richter scale, we’re overflowing into the world. Can you describe what that looks like?

Satyen Raja:              Certainly. Certainly. It’s what I call the divine relationship of sex, passion and enlightenment. The enlightenment piece is this. When your polarity and your love and your hearts are deeply connected and your sexual passion is on fire for each other, what starts to happen is the relationship starts to be filled with something mysterious. Something mysterious gets awakened. A purpose awakens for both of you and then your relationship starts to be a gift. If you have children, the children are gifted. The boys in the relationship start to know what it is to become a masculine, honourable being in this day and age. If you have girls, then what starts to happen is then they start to value themselves as a young goddess. If you don’t have children, your colleagues will…they’ll just see a magic, a glow around you. What will start to happen is you will become an influence for the good of all beings. You’ll be an influence to bring more love and freedom. Because if you’re experiencing more love and more freedom experiencing then you’ve ever experienced then by nature you’re going to want to share it with other people.  So your life force is invigorated, health problems start to diminish and dissolve and go away.  Posture starts to improve. Radiance improves.  And you know what’s an incredible side effect? That people’s money circumstance starts to improve. Because you become more magnetic. And when you’re more magnetic, people want what you have. And when they want what you have, guess what? Your finances increase. Your ability to make an influence in the world grows deeper. Your ability to change micro as well as macro things improve. So Sex Passion Enlightenment is not just for the bedroom. It’s really for the greatness of everything around you.

Taylor:            So. I’m going to ask you a question. I know this is totally unplanned on your part, but haven’t you done this yourself? I mean, walk your talk? I mean, you’ve started several businesses and each one has been just by order or magnitude, way better than the last one?  

Satyen Raja:              You’re absolutely correct.  And I’m only one story. I want you to know, that I’m only one story. And I’m talking a lot of passion now because I believe, not just in my own experience...I have taught now over a decade, thousands of people, my wife and I, thousands of people. We now have an incredible set of other trainers that I’ve been training, Steven and Sonora as an example,  some of my top students, are teaching Sex Passion Enlightenment. They came from a lot of broken and messy and horrible relationships, found each other in our work as singles and now have a relationship. They’ve been with me I think for close to seven years now. They’ve got a relationship. Their wealth has increased. They travel around the world. People come flocking to them for advice. Not only that, they have a passion and, I have to tell you, their financial circumstances have gone through the roof. Why? Because these practices at Sex Passion Enlightenment work for anyone and everyone. You’ve just got to have a little bit of courage, show up, do them, add them to your life and make it a menu so that you have a smorgasbord in your life.

Taylor:            Okay great. We’re going to take another break. So please stay with us. This is Dr. Patti Taylor and we are talking about infusing your life with enlightened love. And we’re talking to Satyen Raja. S-A-T_Y-E-N space R-A-J-A.  So please stay with us. You can learn out more about Satyen at warriorsage.com.

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Taylor:            We’re back. And we’re talking to Satyen Raja. Like to just find out a little bit about the work you do in the world. And what is the most…you want to just tell us a little bit about your training?  What’s really special about it?

Satyen Raja:              Certainly. Well, we have a training called Sex Passion and Enlightenment and it’s a three-day intensive. And the intensive is for couples as well as singles. Singles will learn how to attract a partner to them that really meets the depths of their hearts’ longing. We have a lot of guys and gals who’ve been in relationships where the faces change but the dynamics remain the same. You know what I’m talking about? And that’s because they haven’t learned to change their inner wiring to attract someone that really meets them.  So what we do, believe it or not, in three days is help people totally shift from the inside out, through practical exercises, question and answers. But mostly practices that embody really, passion, that ignite passion, so that you have it in your body.  We don’t just lecture. Lecturing is enough but people need to get it in their body. So we specialize in people making the physical, mental, emotional shifts so that they become that magnetizer to someone who’s really awesome.  Now, couples come. We’ve had hundreds and hundreds of couples have come on the edge of divorce or have been silently cheating or are new in a relationship and have passion but want to learn how to maintain it for a lifetime. So for couples who want to renew their inspiration for each other or on the teeter totter of troubles or want to avoid troubles later, who are even in a great space or a good space right now, they come to learn the secrets of Sex Passion Enlightenment, really to have for a lifetime. And in that training, the guys are separated and the women are separated for certain aspects of it. So that the guys can do the guys’ work of getting down like warriors and inspiring each other to be their best and find our deepest purpose. And the women learn how to connect with the feminine goddess within themselves so that they learn that it’s amazing to be a woman. And that they learn to let go of old traumas, past hurts, so that everyone’s starting fresh. We’re not going back into the past. We’re not doing therapy. We’re moving into the future. How do we want to live our lives? And then we make the shift internally in our life and in the training so that we’re moving towards a magnificent life of Sex Passion Enlightenment. So that’s one of the trainings that we offer. That’s our hallmark and our masterpiece. Another training we do is called the Illumination Intensive. And the Illumination Intensive is a self-discovery process where people find out really who they are. It’s not a couples-training or a sexuality or relationships course, it’s a self-discovery course. And when you discover who you really are…Because a lot of people don’t know who they are.  They’ve been taught who they are by other people. Our parents have indoctrinated us. Our schools, our society, our religions have somehow indoctrinated us, keeping us away from our true nature.  So the Illumination Intensive at Warrior Sage is really to discover who you really are so you’re not being led around by your past or by other people’s influence. You find out who you are so you can live a life according to your deepest truth which is where real fulfilment comes from. Then guess what? Then you bring it to Sex Passion and Enlightenment and you have the spark of a lifetime.

Taylor:            Well that sounds like some really, really amazing work. We’re coming to the end of our show. One thing I wanted to do is…sometimes I like to have just little practical things for our listeners to do. You have a really beautiful exercise…I wanted to say, that when you do go to warriorsage.com, one really great thing for our listeners to know is you can get a free series of downloads from Satyen. So it’s a great little e-course, which is very wonderful. So if you just want to get an introduction, I think there’s six or seven lessons. There’s a beautiful exercise in there and just before we close out the show, I thought you might just lead us through a fairly brief, I don’t think it should take too long, but almost like a meditation breathing in any kind of hurt and just exhaling love. And any time you’re upset with your partner or whatever, that maybe you could tell us what we might do, something to remember how to have more love in our lives.

Satyen Raja:              Certainly. Well, thanks for reminding everyone; yes at warriorsage.com we have our free newsletter and teaching courses. So just register there. You’ll get an incredible training on how to do…start the steps to Sex Passion and Enlightenment wherever you’re living and starting right now, you can start applying this stuff. But, as we go off here, I’d like everyone just to relax and open their spine. And I want you to feel like your body is a transparent body of jello. Okay? Like a transparent body of jello. And I want you to allow your heart to start to glow like a bright sun, shining out through your body. You could do this with your eyes open, your eyes closed, whatever’s appropriate in the setting you’re in.  And allow your heart to start to feel outward in all directions, as if it’s likes tendrils of a very aware feeling body. If you’re a woman, I want you to allow yourself to connect your womb, your genitals, your yoni, your vagina to your heart and start feeling like your yoni is like the moon. If you’re a guy, you too. Feel like your sexual power, your penis, your genitals, your balls, your hips is like a moon. Cool. And then the sun and the moon…I want you to feel your heart is the sun, your genitals is the moon and start feeling them glowing in all directions. And visualize your partner.  If it’s a present partner you have in your life, great. Visualize them in front of you where you’re allowing your heart to shine through your body. You’re allowing the light of the moon to shine through your body so that it’s radiating and shining and warming up your lover. If you’re a single person, I want you to imagine a partner that you’re attracting to you right now and that you’re allowing your heart to shine into them, wherever they are in the world. And that the light of your heart and that the light of your moon is lighting both those centers are lighting up all around you. So that you’re a glowing being from your heart and your genitals. And now, from your deepest heart I want you to send out an intention that you’re there to serve them to their deepest bliss.  Send that out, that you’re putting them first.  Send it out that you’re putting sex, passion and enlightenment out, not just for yourself, but to invigorate your partner, present right now or future lover if you’re a single person, and that you’re going to open your body, your mind and the light within you to ecstasy, to sensuality, to passion.  And now allow your body to shake in the most sexually erotic way or move in a way that would make your partner giggle. That would make them blush. That would make them laugh. That would make them feel, “Wow.  I have a partner here that’s going to serve me open all the way to God.” And feel right now the prayer within your being that your body, your mind is a gift from grace that is here to serve yourself, to serve your health, your vitality, your abundance, your prosperity and ultimately to serve all beings to their greatest good.  And when you’ve done that, open your eyes and open your being, and just smile, knowing that you’re going to have more sex, passion, enlightenment starting right now.

Taylor:            Whoa! Not only am I glowing, the building is rocking back and forth and having an orgasm. And everybody in it. That is so beautiful. Whoa! Thank you.

Satyen Satyen Raja:              You’re most welcome.

Taylor:            Well, we are going to bring the show to a close. Do you have anything else you want to say to that or…?

Satyen Raja:              Well, once again I’d like everyone to please…I’ve got a brand new website, warriorsage.com. I’m very proud of it. We’ve put a lot of work into it so please check it out. I’ve just been recently to India where I gave a whole bunch of teachings and I have a new blog. So please check that out. I’d love to have everyone’s comments. And do register for the newsletter where you’ll get an incredible set of teachings from Sex Passion and Enlightenment. And as I’ve said, just email us; let us know that you’re on the show, that you’ve listened to the show. And I would like to gift all listeners two free tickets, which are worth $79 each, but they’re complimentary to everyone who’s listening.  But please mention this show with Patti and the Expanded Lovemaking show. Email us or call us at the contact info at warriorsage.com and you’ll be gifted two free tickets to Sex, Passion, Enlightenment, our introductory workshop. And you’ll also get the free e-course by registering there. So I look forward to hearing from you, how you found this teaching that you’ve had. And I’m really grateful Patti for you having me here and exposing my work to everyone.

Taylor:            Well thank you Satyen. It was a joy having you on the show. Thank you so much for joining us today.

Satyen Raja:              All my gratitude.

Taylor:            This is Dr. Patti Taylor and we will close out this show. I’m going to invite my listeners to help me out by filling out our survey at survery.personallifemedia.com. It’s fast and easy. And thank you once again everybody. Please send me, Patti email, at [email protected]. For text and transcripts of this show and other shows on the Personal Life Network please visit our website at personallifemedia.com. Also please visit me, Dr. Patti Taylor, at expandedlovemaking.com where you can join my mailing list and find out more about my products, services and events. This is Dr. Patti Taylor and that’s all for now. I remain yours in ever expanded lovemaking. And I’ll see you next week.