Episode 59: The Art of Doing a Woman (Part One) with Daka Raj

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Hear Dr. Patti chat with Daka Raj about the art of doing a woman. “Doing”, which is the  act of giving someone genital pleasure, can be used to take a woman to the heights of prolonged ecstasy, felt in the body, mind, heart, and spirit of both the giver and receiver. Discover why Dr. Patti has found this to be such a rewarding lifelong practice. This program is chock full of specific details. Learn about positions, and what to do to get a woman engorged. Why this is so important? Find out more about finding “her favorite spot” and staying on it. Learn why continuity is so essential, and how to know when to keep doing the same stroke vs. making changes. Find out what to do with your bottom hand, too. Join in as Patti and Daka Raj have a virtual date, - the chemistry is high! Join in and become inspired to have this kind of pleasure in your own life.

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Dr. Patti Taylor: Welcome to the Expanded Lovemaking Show. I’m your host, Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I teach you how to make exquisite love. This is part one of a two part series. Now, how would you like to blow your wife or girlfriend’s mind with the best orgasm of her life whenever you choose? So, today on the show, we’re talking about what it takes to give a woman phenomenal expanded orgasms. I’ve invited my advanced student Daka Raj to ask me questions he wrote down specifically for this session on the subject of expanding orgasmic pleasure.

Well, when you receive this expanded orgasmic pleasure, first of all, I want to say you spread it through your body, your mind, your heart, and your spirit. So, it really feels great just to be able to experience way more of myself than I’m used to experiencing in my every day world. The fingers are the most dexterous, the most nimble, the most sensate feeling, there’s the most variety, so it’s really where we develop the art form.

Start with the passion, and I think that there, it’s sometimes very important to recognize that there are other chemistry issues that make a date phenomenal. You can actually get an electrical current going, and it can either be really subtle or it can be really obvious. It’s almost like there’s a buzzing. Your hand doesn’t want to leave there. There’s like suction that’s just sucking it into the current. You always want to be consistent, because you always want to have consciousness. Remember, we said sensual awareness and consciousness for both the giver and the receiver.

Hi Daka Raj. Great to have you on the show.

Daka Raj: It’s great to be here, Patti.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, thank you.

Daka Raj: So let me ask you this. I was wondering if you’d be willing to take a moment and introduce yourself and your history and a little bit about what brought you to where you are today.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, sure. I’m Dr. Patti Taylor, and I’ve been studying the art and science of expanded orgasms for seventeen years. I’m the author of the book Expanded Orgasm, and the creator of the educational video Expand Her Orgasm Tonight. I teach in New York and San Francisco, and I see clients privately as well. Now, let me tell you about our guest, Daka Raj. Daka Raj has been a student of mine for several years. While you may think this is a long time, expanded orgasm is a profound training in sexual mastery, and it’s not uncommon for my students to take lots of lessons. So, Daka Raj, thanks for being with me on the show today.

Daka Raj: Oh, it’s great to be here, Patti. Thank you.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Cool. Well, this is going to be a rousing conversation, more than a standard interview. I expect we’ll see some questions and answers from both of us, so let’s get started.

Daka Raj: Well, to begin with, I wanted to mention that I’ve been asked questions, you know I teach this on a weekly basis at least, and I get a lot of questions about doing, and I have a lot of questions for you that come up over and over again and that’s kind of what inspired this show, and my first question just to get level set everybody, is to have you explain what is doing, and how does it relate to expanded orgasm.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, great. So doing is just putting manual attention on genitals, for our purposes for this show. Okay, so it’s d-o-i-n-g, so you do your partner. Now, I also want to take a moment and just define expanded orgasm. It’s a path, really, of expanding your sensual awareness and your consciousness while receiving genital stimulation.

Daka Raj: Thank you. Now, I know that you love doing and talking about doing and expanded orgasm. What is it about the art of doing in particular that has you so excited about it?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, when you receive this expanded orgasmic pleasure, first of all I want to say you spread it through your body, your mind, your heart and your spirit, so it really feels great just be able to experience way more way more of myself than I’m used to experiencing in my everyday world. And the second thing is that as the receiver, I get to surrender into pleasure. The goal of an expanded orgasm for me as the receiver is just to feel as much as possible, and of course the goal for the giver would be to create that opportunity for me to surrender. So, who wouldn’t want to do that? I think that’s wonderful.

Daka Raj: I totally agree with you, and beyond that, I think there’s something about consciousness or awareness or doing as an art form. I wonder if you could talk about that a little bit.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Absolutely. I’m just going to come right out and be very honest, and say that people practice doing just the way that you might practice Olympic skiing or great French cooking, or anything else in life that you want to be amazing at. And it happens over time, and the people that get really great, no matter where they started from, get even better, because they see this as a practice and because you’re dealing with two people, I mean, it’s not like you’ve got a dozen eggs to practice on. You’re dealing with another human being. So, every time is different, and yet it’s so important to have that continuity and look at this as just, as something that you do, you do to learn, you do to develop your skills, and yes of course at the same time, whether it’s someone you just met tonight or it’s your long term partner, there’s definitely a very deep connection, too.

Daka Raj: I like that. The tennis analogy is good. You’re always with someone different, or even if they’re the same person, they may be different on that day, so there’s this constant awareness and attention you need to have. So, before we get too into all the art and technique, which I know we’re going to talk about, could you say a little bit about positions, like, say, someone doesn’t know anything about doing. What are some positions that they might experiment with?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, well, yeah, there are a lot of positions. I like what I call the standard teaching position for doing, which I’m going to describe. First of all, where, let’s say a man or could be a woman too, is sitting up against some sort of back support, could be a wall or a bed pillow, or whatever, and the woman is just perpendicular to him, she’s lying down, and he’s got one leg, one knee over her, and, so that, her legs are basically probably going to be, her knees are going to be bent, and he can kind of scootch his other leg underneath her legs. And if you can’t visualize this, I do have a great DVD out on this. It’s really good to see this happen visually. Anyway, it’s a great position because it enable, we’re just going to say a man for the purposes of our show today, but it can really be anybody, but it enables the man, or the giver of the do, to have really good reach, to have access to a woman’s clitoris, her vagina, her anus, and since we’re really looking at mastery, we do look at the hands, so that, because the fingers are the most dexterous, the most nimble, the most sensate feeling, there’s the most variety. So, it’s really where we develop the art form. So that’s the standard position.

Daka Raj: Great, and by the way are there any other positions that you like to experiment with or that you like to suggest to people who are doing this on a daily basis to play with?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, some people have lots of different reasons for doing other ones. You can do it side by side, and if you’re kissing and then the man of course can just reach over and his hand on the woman’s pussy, but then he won’t have the second hand really available. Some women can kneel and that will work. The man can have his head down around her knees, and use both hands that way, although I would recommend you get lots of pillows so you can prop yourself up and have your arms be comfortable. Can you think of any other positions that are pretty common?

Daka Raj: Well, there’s, I think, the T.V. watching position where a woman’s sitting in front of you, and you can rub her clitoris with one of your hands, and the other hand can play with her nipples or possibly reach down if your arms are long enough, and I think when you talk about the second hand, you can, when a woman’s warm up, you have access to her g-spot, and that would be a good position for that.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right, another position is actually to have the man sitting in between the woman’s legs, and he’ll have great access to her g- area, g-spot is another word, g-area, but he’ll probably have to use his thumb for the clitoris, and the thumb is probably not the most, it’s not the most connected up to the brain, so we just teach in the standard pleasuring position, and these are mostly variations that people can use.

Daka Raj: Great. Thank you. Now, many of the guys that I talk to ask what’s in this for them? So, I think that’s where I want to start from a guy’s point of view. They’re in a long term relationship or maybe they’re just dating someone. What makes them, why would they want to learn this technique?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, there are two reasons that come to my mind. The first one is that the way you learn this really is that whether you’re the giver or the receiver, you are feeling what the receiver is feeling, so if a man is giving a woman the greatest orgasm of her life and the most wonderful, amazing experience, he’s going to feel it too, and it’s going to be amazing for him. But there’s a second, great reason to do this, which is that, this will get a woman so turned on, and so hot, and so dripping, and a man that knows how to get a woman off will have great lovemaking and will be number one in her heart and on her speed dial, and she’ll want to do it a lot. And from a man’s point of view, when you’ve got a woman chasing you around the bedroom, I have to say, that’s got to be a good thing.

Daka Raj: I want to second two things that you said. One is that, if you’re the doer, you definitely feel when a woman’s coming, and to give her a really intense orgasm feels amazing. Also, making love after you’ve done a woman, if that’s appropriate for your relationship, is phenomenal.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right. You would get spoiled so fast, because a woman gets engorged. Engorged just means, well hard, you know, like, for a man, engorged would be like their cock gets hard. When a woman is engorged, her whole pussy is pillowy and succulent, and it’s so thick and cushiony and filled with nerve endings that are stretched out to feel every last micro-motion of sensation. You know, I would say, you wouldn’t settle for less after you really knew how to get a woman to be engorged. You’d be doing that all the time because it just, would feel so much better, whether you’re a guy and your cock is usually really big. This way, if she’s engorged, you can just enter her and it’ll feel amazing because of all that cushiony wetness. If, on the other hand, your cock is on the small side, well think again, it’s pillowy and cushiony and your cock is going to feel enormous. So, it’s like everybody wins.

Daka Raj: That, I agree with that, and the other thing that I just wanted to add is that, for people who are in a long term relationship, maybe when you started out and you got married, she’d come home and she’d already be turned on before you even touched her. And longer term relationships that isn’t always what happens, so could you say a little bit more about how this could add to long term relationships and how the dynamics are different.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Absolutely, but I just have to throw out one little thing first. Very often when I’m engorged, you could have just your little finger in me to the first knuckle and it will feel like you are up to my navel, so that’s what we’re talking about with engorgement. Okay, what was the question again?

Daka Raj: This was about, I just want to make a little note about long term relationships. I think when you’ve been dating someone for one day, or three days, or the first date, you might actually get together and she’s like, hot and wet even before you touch her. But guys who are in a long term relationship, when you first touch a woman, your wife’s come home from soccer camp or something and she’s worked all day and got the groceries, there’s a different, maybe she’s even post menopausal. There’s a different dynamic that’s going on, and I just want to talk a little bit about how this adds to that relationship.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Absolutely. Well, like you said, a lot of people don’t need expanded orgasm lessons because they just met someone or they haven’t seen them for a month, and you know, so we’ve all had those experiences. What I love about this practice is that it really addresses, I think, the very real problem of what do you do when you’re in a longer term relationship, and you’re sort of used to each other. There’s not that hot, rip your clothes off chemistry every night of the week, and what if you want it to be great? Like you said, if both of you have had a really hard day. The thing is, a woman has a clit, and if you know how to find it and wake it up and get it going, it will feel amazing, and so it will bring in the hormonal turn on, It will bring in the passion. You may not start with the passion, and I think that there, it’s sometimes very important to recognize that there are other chemistry issues that make a date phenomenal. So, we are specifically going to be talking about technique tonight, but in a date, you definitely, you know, learn to have the chemistry be really good too. So, the man learns how to give a woman something to surrender into, which is his technique, and his skill, and his confidence, and his own feeling, and the woman learns how to be turned on and how to really bring out her own turn on, and they work through these things because they’re in a practice. Well, we’re going to take a break before we get really hot and steamy, so please stay with us. This is Dr. Patti Taylor and I’m here with Daka Raj, and we will be right back. And you can learn more about me at expandedlovemaking.com.

Dr. Patti Taylor: We’re back, and I’m Dr. Patti Taylor, and we’re talking to Daka Raj about the art of doing a woman.

Daka Raj: So, Dr. Patti, one thing that, just from the last segment I wanted to bring in is, what’s in this for a woman besides the obvious having a great orgasm? Are there other benefits that a woman would be very interested in knowing about.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, let’s see. Just sort of mentally reviewing all the people I’ve worked with. I guess there are many reasons why a woman would want to learn this. A lot of women just want to have a better relationship with their partner, and they know that men, you know, sex is a great way to have a great marriage or a great connection and so they just learn it. I want to go on and say, that, for me, being orgasmic has been the core to which I go down to. So when I’ve been lost or depressed or injured or at my worst, my blahs, I’ve always had this life force energy in me, and when I’m at my best of course, I celebrate that. And I always say, you kill so many birds with this one stone, because, we’re so busy today, and here you get to connect with your partner, have him put excuisite attention on you, wake you up, give you this wonderful, beautiful, oh feels so good kind of experience, and have passion, and fun, and play. And not only that, you can do this for the rest of your life, so it just builds the connection.

Daka Raj: Excellent. So, you’re starting a date, and you want to wake up a woman’s pussy, say or she’s not all hot and wet when she comes home from the day. What are some of the things you can do to get her in her body and warmed up?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so, a couple of things I think are very important. We’re just going to touch on this briefly, because I know we’re really focusing on the technique, but it’s so important to spend a little bit of time for both people to transition out of their regular day. And different people have different ways of doing this. We talk about this on so many of our shows, non violent communication to make sure that both people are feeling good with one another, in good communication, eye gazing, sensual massage. I think it’s really important, just kinds of grounding . A very simple one could just be to breathe and eye gaze with eachother. I often like to put attention on a man’s cock for a little bit, just to get him in his body, so I don’t underestimate the very important need for transition before a man touches a woman. I want to make sure my man is in good condition. Then he can touch me. So, we do all those things, which are on all my shows. My guests have given us so many ideas. I’m going to kind of hop ahead.

Daka Raj: Excellent. Thank you. So, once you’ve transitioned as a doer, and your woman’s transitioned and you have her in front of you, you want to wake up her pussy. What are some techniques you would recommend for a man to really get her pussy wet and hot and engorged?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, that’s a great question, because this is exactly what you want to do. You want to get a woman’s clit hard, pure and simple, or engorged. Without getting a woman’s clit engorged, it almost makes no sense. It’d be like, well, let’s just put it this way. The return on your investment will be ten times higher if a woman is engorged, so it’s always blown my mind that people don’t absolutely, maniacally focus on this. So what are some of the things that a man can do? He can squeeze her labia, and she can take probably way more pressure than you would guess. He can squeeze the shaft of her clitoris, right through the hood of the clitoris. This is probably, I would say, the all time favorite thing I’ve ever taught men to do, because everybody can find the clit when it’s under the hood. And you just start squeezing it, and often a pulsing squeeze, like squeeze squeeze squeeze squeeze, or rubbing it between your two fingers, like kindling it a little bit. And, you know, and the woman should teach you how to do this, but that kind of applying pressure actually brings blood flow to the area and it’ll help you find her favorite spot, and it’ll help you give her a much better experience.

Daka Raj: Thank you. Now, in many of your courses, you talk about finding a woman’s current is one of the first things you want to do. Could you talk about what that means and how that might apply to a guy for whom that might be an abstract concept?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so what is the current? Well, maybe I’ll just start with women. Hopefully women have masturbated in their life sometime. I know I didn’t until I was either thirty-two or thirty-six. I can’t remember. It was a while ago, but, some, I’m just going to guess that most women have masturbated so they will instinctively go to where it feels the best. And very often, if, we say it’s the two o’clock position maybe that’s eighty percent of the time. If the woman, if you were looking at a woman and she was like a clock where her genitals are, twelve o’ clock would be the top, six would be the bottom. If you were looking at the woman, three o’ clock would be on her right, and nine o’ clock would be on her left. So, from a woman’s point of view, it’s on her left side and it’s two o’ clock, and it’s that upper quadrant. It’s often where it feels best. Now, once you tap into where it feels the best, you can actually get an electrical current going and it can either be really subtle or it can be really obvious. It’s almost like there’s a buzzing. Your hand doesn’t want to leave there. There’s like suction that’s just sucking it into the current. And it can be subtle in the beginning and take a while to develop the ability to feel the current, but that’s what you want to do.

Daka Raj: So, for a guy, he wants to feel her pussy, and feel her spot, probably on her clit, probably the two o’ clock position where it’s electrical buzzing and feels the best.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right, two o’ clock, or wherever, if the woman’s different. I thought mine was on the right until I did some very serious investigation, and it was on the right, but there was more on the left. So, but I want to be respectful that different people are different. Yeah, what you want to do once you’ve gotten a woman engorged as the giver, is you want to start, I always recommend, very, very concentrated stroking in that two o’ clock area. Maybe it’s on a diagonal from three to twelve or it’s kind of up and down, but you want it to be very steady and very consistent, and you might want to ask the woman if she prefer you use the tip of your finger or the pad of your finger, because a woman, that might make a huge difference in terms of what their preference is.

Daka Raj: One of the things that comes up for me when I hear that, is that I think some guys might not feel much with their hands. SO, I was wondering if you could talk a little bit about how to have more tactile awareness, and how to really know, how to feel for the woman’s current.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Again, that’s a really good question. It’s interesting, a lot of what we teach absolutely applies to oral sex, and it seems like a lot of men feel like they can really feel more with their tongue than their hands, and it may just be because that’s what they’ve been doing. So, I think it takes some training, and one of the things that gets in the way, if a man isn’t feeling a woman, okay A. check and see if you’ve gotten her engorged, or B. if you’re just starting out, have the woman do herself, because it takes a little bit of time to wake up the current, so this probably the most challenging thing about a do date is starting out. Once you’re up and running, you’re off to the races hopefully. But, just finding that current when you can’t find it is the challenge. So, what you want to do, I say, is look at what you’re doing. Get out your light, or just leave the light on enough so you can see what you’re doing, and absolutely where it’s going to feel the best is right where the hood meets the clitoris. So some men actually will pull the hood back a little bit and expose sort of under the hood, and they’ll just use a line of sight and stay very focused on that two o’ clock area and be very consistent. And, try and go through the skin, because it needs to be probably a smaller stroke than you’re used to and it almost takes a little bit of time to really get the hang of it. So, it helps for the woman to say, “Oh you’re on,” or, “No, you fell off.” I used to play Stop, Start, stop you know and they start and then if they fall off, I let them know, and then, after a while, you begin to just feel the current.

Daka Raj: Thank you. One of the things I also wanted to add to that is, if you do a little exercise before you start, I remember something I’ve seen you teach in one of your classes is you’re just feeling the other person’s energy, through the space of air, when you’re being sort of a spongy touch I think you talk about. And that sort of brings heat and energy to the hands, and I think that’s a helpful thing to do before you start.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right. Well, like I said, expanded orgasm, really is about mind, body, heart, and spirit all at once, and technique is only twenty-five percent. It’s a very important twenty-five percent. Without technique, you know, you’re coasting on the other three. But I think, because there are these other dimensions, the emotional, and the spiritual, and the mental, sometimes, it’s like, for a guy, if he can’t see it, he doesn’t believe it. There has to be, for some guys, this leap of faith, that there is a current there, and that they can tap into it. And, if you’re thinking too hard and looking for it and frustrated and goal oriented, that’s actually going to be very counterproductive. SO what you want to do is, and this is why we practice, by the way, so much, is you want to just stay so much in the feeling, that you almost have simplified your mind to, “Am I on the current or am I off the current. Am I on or off?” so that, even though you do have a mind and you are raising energy, and it is emotionally impacting you, that’s not where your attention is. Your attention is just on the feeling, and when it’s on the feeling, it’s sort of a self-reinforcing cycle, then you can feel more, and then you start to believe that there really is a current, and actually after a while it’ll feel so intense, that your main problem will be just not being blown away by feeling how much feeling there is to feel. That’s a nice problem to have, but you have to kind of surrender the judgemental part of your mind, even as the giver and just trust that the feeling will take you there.

Daka Raj: So, in a sense, you’re saying, “believe it’s there and you’re more likely to find it than if you don’t.” So, yeah, that’s good.

Dr. Patti Taylor: We’re gonna just take a break, so hold your questions. This is Dr. Patti Taylor and we’re talking about the art of doing a woman with Daka Raj. So, please stay with us. We’ll be right back.

Dr. Patti Taylor: We’re back, and I’m Dr. Patti Taylor of expandedlovemaking.com. And we’re talking with Daka Raj about the art of doing a woman. So where were we, anyway?

Daka Raj: Well, we were doing a woman, and we’re tracking her current really carefully and we’ve got her climbing. Now, in your teaching, you frequently talk about consistency, and how important that is. And I was wondering if you could talk about what is consistency, and how it can add to a do date.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Alright, so, oh you talk to me about my favorite topic here. Consistency. I think consistency is what makes people a master, and then a masterer master. So, what is consistency? Well, it’s when you give someone an even stroke, I think, at the simplest level, up down, up, down, up, down, up, down. What would be inconsistent, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down. Now, if you could imagine someone giving you’re a nice, consistent head massage for example, that gives you something to surrender into, and the rhythm will carry you away. And particularly for a woman who’s just starting to climb. Okay, she’s vulnerable. I don’t care if you’ve done this a thousand million times. A woman who’s starting to surrender to a man is getting vulnerable, and more and more so. And the consistency will sort of lull her into this sense of, she’ll spread out her awareness. It’ll help her spread. She’ll drop her guard. She wants to drop her guard. It’ll help her surrender, because she knows that you’re there as the giver, and she knows that you know what you’re doing, because you’re, what your strokes are very even and very measured. And it just absolutely, it gives her a pool to jump into.

Daka Raj: SO, I get what you’re saying about the consistency, and one of the things I worry about, or men who I’ve talked to worry about, is, how do you be consistent without being monotonous, and without following a map.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, well, there’s consistent and then there’s consistent. So, you always want to be consistent because you always want to have consciousness. Remember we said sensual awareness and consciousness for both the giver and the receiver. But, it’s kind of a moving consistency. So, in the beginning, you probably want to be the most consistent and the most boring. And boring isn’t necessarily bad at the beginning of a date, because it’s already very exciting for a woman and risky, and a little bit of very predictable up, down, up, down, up, down might actually feel really like, “This is great. I have something here that is consistent and regular, and I can just kinda go right into that beat and that rhythm.” At some point, as a good giver of pleasure, you yourself will start to notice, “Hmm, I’m getting bored.” And then, that’s the point at which you want to change things a little bit. Now, I want to add one other thing, which is that you want to be peaking inside of that consistency, and what I mean by that is having intentional, deliberate pauses. So, after a while, you’ve been going up, down, up, down, up, down, peak, up, down, up, down, up, down, peak, and even the spacing of the peaks is consistent. So, when you want to start to change things, that’s good. When you sense that your partner is ready for change, make the change, but make it be a gradual change. So don’t go from up, down, up, down, peak, up down, up down to, like, you know, wildly jagged, rhomboid  ellipses or something. Just gradually move into wherever you want to take her.

Daka Raj: So, in a sense you’re saying, well, two things I wanted to point out. One is, it’s like if you’re doing jazz, you don’t want to do rock and roll, or you don’t want to heavy percussion right away, or something like that. So, consistency means following, in a sense, it means following her energy and being aware of where she’s at. The other thing I wanted to mention is that I find, I’ve had to learn as a guy, as a doer, that the consistency that a woman wants is much more than I would expect, that she wants a lot more, at the beginning of a date especially, regular strokes than I imagined.

Dr. Patti Taylor: I think that’s an excellent point. You know, we live in a society, where more means harder and faster, and in expanded orgasm, more can often mean more subtle, more delicate, more awareness, more consciousness, and it can be harder and faster too, but it can be any one of those things, and you’re right. I think also, the more turned on a woman gets, she’s feeling everything more intensely now, it may mean that she wants harder, faster, whatever, but it may mean that if you want to draw her out and have her dangling over every other edge, and just drooling and begging and reaching for your touch, that you’re deliberately going to want to stretch her out and tease her and have her begging for your touch. And how do you do that? You hold back a little, so you don’t deliver all the sensation that she’s begging for. You kind of tease her a little bit, and you just keep going at that same rate until you think she can’t stand it anymore, and then you know, you amp it out.

Daka Raj: That’s great. Thank you. So, one of the, I just wanted to check in. So, you have one of your hands is on your clit, and you’ve been tracking and you’re consistent. What are you doing with your other hand, just so that our listeners have a sense of what’s happening on the date overall.

Dr. Patti Taylor: The other hand, you may start out just scooting it under her but, the fingers, and resting her, your thumb on her entroitis, not really entering her, but just feeling with that hand. Everything should always be done with both hands, with awareness. And at some point, she will probably invite you in, and we can talk about that in part two of our show because I think we’re coming pretty close to our end. But it’s a great question. I always say, all hands on deck. As many hands as possible, please.

Daka Raj: Do we have time for another question or two?

Dr. Patti Taylor: Sure.

Daka Raj: One of the things, I’m curious about as a doer. How do you issue an invitation to have a woman surrender even more deeply into your touch and reissue that invitation, so that she goes higher and higher.

Dr. Patti Taylor: That, we’re gonna have to leave for the next show, so why don’t we close the show with some inspirational though, perhaps? I’m going to ask you, what would you like to share with our listeners today? Something really, from your own heart that they can take with them into their day or evening.

Daka Raj: Well, I don’t have an answer to that right away, but what comes to mind is the joy it is to give a woman an expanded orgasm. To touch her, to feel her, to see her smile, to see her open up, and that, you know, is a complete and fulfilling experience by itself, and that’s the reason why I do this as an art form.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow, well that is really beautiful. And I guess, for myself, just to close the show, my final parting thought would be this. I have expanded orgasms through rain and shine, and you know, I think at the end of my life, I’m not going to say, how many more days should I have stayed later at the office, but I’m going to look back at all of the unbelievably rich, and beautiful, and fulfilling connections that I’ve had, and probably be really happy about it. So, I think this is a beautiful path for anyone to take up at any point in their life, and that will be richly, richly rewarding.

Daka Raj: Well, thank you, Patti, for being our guest today, or being my guest today. You know, it’s really fun to be here and to be sharing this experience with you.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Yeah, it’s a real turn on, isn’t it? And I love the thought of our listeners perhaps going home and trying some of this. And we’re going to close the show, but we are going to come back and talk about some more advanced techniques. So, thank you so much for listening. Please send me email at [email protected]. For techs and transcripts of this show and other shows on the personal life media network, please visit the website at personallifemedia.com. You can also visit me, Dr. Patti Taylor at expandedlovemaking.com, where you can join my mailing list and find out more about my products, services, and events. So, this is Dr. Patti Taylor, and that’s all for now. I remain yours in ever expanding lovemaking, and I’ll see you next week.