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Did you know that there is a "Meet-Up-Group" named "Sirens" that's all about seduction for women in NYC? Meet Arden Leigh, co-founder of Sirens, teaching the art and science of seduction. Arden has been interested in seduction ever since she knew what the word meant. She a retired professional dominatrix and author of a seduction guide for everyday women, "Whipped: A Professional Dominatrix Shares the Secrets to Wrapping Men Around Your Little Finger."

Join Arden and Chip as they talk about the meaning and nature of seduction, the games that men play - and how women can learn them, hook-ups, relationships and so much more. And don't miss Arden's exercise for you to try at home.

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Remember when you thought any unmarried woman over a certain age (whatever you thought was the conventional age for marriage) was a "spinster"? Now the headlines say that "40 is the new 20", twenty-six percent of the US population lives alone, twenty-one percent of real estate is purchased by single women, and the world is filled with single women of a certain age.

Meet Jane Ganahl, the editor of Single Woman of a Certain Age, expert on the romantic escapades, shifting shapes, and serene independence of the peri-menopausal dating scene. Join us as we explore the realities of women today. And don't miss the exercise for you to try at home.

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Why would anyone want to be thought of a slut? Isn't that an insult? Meet Dossie Easton, co-author (with Janet Hardy) of "The Ethical Slut, a Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures". Dossie is a licensed psychotherapist with more than thirty-five years experience working with people struggling with jealousy, alternative relationships, and assorted "poly" issues.

Dossie defines a slut as: a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality and believes that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you. Join us for a down-to-earth discussion of ideas like polyamory, ethical sluttiness, jealousy and, of course, love. And don't miss Dossie's treasure of an exercise at the end of our interview.

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Julia Tindall awakens heart consciousness with a unique blend of hatha, jnana and tantra yogas. Join Julia and I for a lively discussion about transforming sexual shame for men and women; the dance of masculine and feminine and how to use these polarities to spice up your love life; the importance of spirutal community in today's isolated world; and, the nature of true intimacy. And don't miss Julia's terrific exercise for you to try at home.

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Sinclair Sexsmith defies categorization. He's a self described lesbian, kinky writer, queer butch top, feminist sex educator in New York City. Join us as we talk about gender expression, identities, labels, transcending the mutually exclusive binaries, queer culture, concepts of how gender identity and sexual identity intersect, butch/femme roles as a language of desire, how labels can be restrictive or liberating and so much more. And don't miss the exercise for you to try at home.

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What's the big deal about prostates? Meet Dr. Erika Thost, physician, Tranta teacher, and expert on prostate and g-spot massage. Dr. Thost is a passionate advocate for discovering all the ways that sexuality, and life, can feel great. In easy-to-understand language Dr. Thost explains the do's and don'ts of prostate play. Listen in as Dr. Thost and I talk about how to play with a prostate, how to enhance your pleasure, how to improve your prostate health. And don't miss her great exercise for you to try at home.

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Meet Susan Kuchinskas, journalist. Susan has become an authoritative expert on the biological basis of love and commitment. Our ability to love this way, and to feel loved in return, is primarily based on oxytocin, a chemical produced in the brain in response to positive social interactions. Oxytocin, sometimes called the cuddle chemical, is responsible for life's most fulfilling emotions: love, trust and commitment.

According to Susan: "Our brains develop the oxytocin response after we're born, in response to the kind of mothering we get. If your mother is depressed, angry or ill, you may not grow up with the ability to bond in healthy relationships."

Join us for a fascinating glimpse into the "Chemistry of Connection". And make sure you hear Susan's suggestions for you to try at home.

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Meet Joan Price, retired High School teacher, health & fitness writer, and author of the candid memoir "Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty." As an advocate for ageless sexuality, Joan is an upbeat, warm, friendly expert who is chock-full of great information for all of us graying baby-boomers. In our conversation we talk about Joan's personal experiences, as well information she has gleaned from interviews with sassy, sexy, over-sixty women that Joan interviewed for her book.

This is a frank and candid interview about where and how to find partners, how to use lubricants & toys to help make post-menopausal sex the delight it's meant to be, and so much more. And make sure you listen to Joan's exercise for you to try at home.

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When he was a Harvard undergrad, soon-to-be-Dr. Alex Benzer noticed how difficult it was for the bright, beautiful people all around him to find, meet and attract meaningful love relationships. After getting his Bachelors degree from Harvard, studying Eastern wisdom and getting a Masters in Philosophy from Cambridge, and also getting his medical doctorate from UC San Diego School of Medicine, Dr. Alex collected what he knew about Men, Women, Dating, and the idea of the Tao, the Way, and produced 2 great books- The Tao of Dating for Men, and his latest, The Tao of Dating for Women.

Join us for a fun chat about men, women, relationship, fulfillment, spirituality and so much more. And don't miss Dr. Alex's great exercise for you try at home.

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Meet Chris Kilham: The "Medicine Hunter" and Explorer-in-Residence at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, where he teaches ethnobotany and conducts botanical educational programs for the natural products trade and the media.. Chris travels the world, conducting medicinal research. Join us as we talk about his research into “Hot Plants: Nature’s Proven Sex Boosters for Men & Women”

“…hot plants have summoned me suggestively as I have wended my way from one continent to another in an ongoing quest for nature’s cures.”

In this fun interview Chris and I talk about stimulants, aphrodisiacs and various sexually enhancing plants. Chris has tried these plants, studied them in his lab, and is here to tell you that, whatever your interest, nature has a proven, safe plant to help you. And don't miss Chris' suggestion for aphrodisiacs just waiting for you at your local supermarket!

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According to her research, Susan Shapiro Barash has found that more than 80% of women believe that it is often beneficial to lie to their loved ones; 75% of women believe they must lie to sustain their jobs and careers, and; 75% say they lie about money to their boyfriends, husbands and family members.

Susan Shapiro Barash teaches “Gender Studies” at Marymount Manhattan College and is the author of 10 non-fiction, women’s issues books, including her most recent: “Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth about Why Women Lie”. Based on interviews with hundreds of women of all social strata , ethnicity and ages, from across the country, her research offers insights into the choices women make and their innermost feelings about these choices.

Don't miss this fascinating and controversial episode and don't miss Susan's suggestion for you to try at home.

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Dr. Wendy Lyon is a master certified relationship and life coach, workshop facilitator, and relationship expert for BayAreaSingles.com. Dr. Wendy wants to help everyone create the relationship of their dreams. She's come up with her Ten Steps to Relationship Success. Listen in as Dr. Wendy and I delve into beliefs about dating, relationships, sex, love, men, women and more. Using my own beliefs as a model, Wendy teaches a simple technique to recognize and shift beliefs that impede relationship success.

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Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, M.D. is an associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical school and the author of "Testosterone For Life." After 30 years conducting research on "T" (testosterone), Dr. M believes that millions of men have low T and don't know it. If you are a man, or love a man, this one episode you don't want to miss!

Men: If you are always tired, feel like you've lost your "edge", lost your enthusiasm, feel like a grumpy old man - you may be experiencing the effect of low T. Listen in as we discuss T, dispel some myths, and delve deeply into this problem that frequently just gets chalked up to "getting old." And don't miss Dr. Morgentaler's exercise for you to try at home.

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Introducing Dr. John Curtis, author of “Happily Unmarried: Living Together and Loving It”. Dr. Curtis thinks that relationships are serious business. Looking at US Census data, the number of unmarried couples living together has increased ten-fold over the last 40 years and Dr Curtis has got a new approach to building intimate live-in relationships that work. Using proven, successful business tactics, Dr. Curtis takes us through a his systematic, step-by-step approach to building and sustaining thriving, healthy, cohabitating relationships. And don't miss Dr. Curtis's exercises for you to try at home.

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Jason Weston leads the series of "Love, Intimacy and Sexuality" workshops offered by the Human Awareness Institute (as do I). His life and love history have given Jason insights into and personal experiences of a wide range of relationship "styles", including monogamy, polyamory, open relationship, and group marriage.

Join Jason and me as we talk about his relationship philosophy of "All The Truth, All The Time." In a wide ranging interview we talk about the meaning of love: love of self, love of partner, love of life, love of planet; the relationship between an empty life and a full garage; and so much more. And don't miss Jason's beautiful exercise to help you really give love and really take love in.

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David Shade, author of “The Secrets of Female Sexuality” and self-described renegade sex expert, specializes in teaching men how to, in his words, 'give women incredible pleasure' and how couples can have wildly exciting relationships. David teaches men that for a woman sex is mostly mental, how to leverage that by using mental foreplay, dirty talk, and erotic hypnosis to bring out the 'ruthlessly expressive inner animal' inside of each woman. Working with tens of thousands of men and women worldwide, David goes outsides the boundaries of political correctness and conventional wisdom, to find tools and techniques that help men give, again in his words, wild screaming orgasms. And don't miss David's sex technique exercise.

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Meet Dr. Sue Johnson, Director of the Ottawa (Canada) Couple and Family Institute and the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Ottawa and Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California. She is the author of four books. Her latest is “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.” Based on a revolutionary new theory of love, Sue teaches couples the path to deep, connected life-long love, utilizing an easy to follow, 7 step approach. And don't miss Sue's exercise for you to try tonight.

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You see articles about it in all the popular magazines and newspapers. Oprah and Dr. Phil are talking about it. HBO and Showtime are making TV series about it. Hooking Up. College kids having sex just to have sex. Instead of going out with guys and getting to know people, college women are exploring their sexual freedom by taking multiple partners. Meet Lauren Herskovic, Managing Editor of CollegeCandy.com, a blog for college women, by college women. Lauren writes and researches about sex and intimacy trends among young women. In this interview Lauren and I talk about the new trend in “dating” in college, which is that there isn’t any. While it is wonderful that women are finally discovering their sexual desires, it comes at a cost. What are they giving up? Is this really the best way to assert themselves? Are they losing the respect of their friends and potential mates? And do women really want no-strings-attached sex, or is that just what they think they should want? It's a no-holds-barred look at college-age women. And, as always, we end with an exercise for you to try.

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Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, is a professor of psychology at American University, a certified marital and sex therapist, and a recipient of the 2009 Smart Marriages Impact Award. With his wife Emily McCarthy, a writer and former speech therapist, he has coauthored 11 books on relationships and sexuality, including: "Rekindling Desire", "Getting It Right the First Time", and "Getting it Right This Time". His new book is "Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style" – a book designed to help couples develop a strong, resilient couple sexual style, find the path back from sexual dissatisfaction and dysfunction, and let go of unrealistic ideas and patterns about sexuality. Join Barry and me as we talk about the guidelines for sexual satisfaction, the 5 gears of touch, and lots of ways to maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life. And don't miss Barry's sweet, intimate exercise for to try at home.

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Meet Julia and Mary, single, successful, twenty-somethings who are 2 of the three founders of a new "lifestyle" video cast called TMIWeekly.com. Julia is a dating expert and journalist. Mary is designer and style expert. Every few days they get together with their friend Meghan Asha (tech expert) and record themselves chatting about sex, love, style, cool toys, and pretty much anything else going on in their lives. They call it TMI (too much info) but I found it fascinating. So we got together on the phone and had a great conversation about dating, being happily single, sex, the meaning of concepts like "marriage" and "relationship." We laughed, we chatted. Join us for a light-hearted glimpse into the lives of these two women who love to talk. And don't miss their exercise about texting.

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It is one of the most vulnerable places on the human body and yet almost everyone puts petrochemicals- Propylene Glycol, Polyethylene Glycol- directly on their genitals, in the form of lubricants we purchase at our local Drug Store. Meet Wendy Strgar; owner and founder of Good Clean Love, manufacturer of all-natural love and intimacy products. Wendy has studied natural health care and has used homeopathic remedies, aromatherapy and energy healing techniques with her four children, family and friends for the last 20 years. She formulated her Good Clean Love products to meet a personal need for healthy lubrication products after the births of her 3rd and 4th child. Join us as we talk about Wendy's personal crusade to provide healthy, sex-positive products for enhanced intimacy. Listen in as Wendy extends the concept of "sustainabilty" to relationships and love and her campaign for "Making Love Sustainable" and discusses her weekly blog about "Good Clean Love" in every aspect of our love-life. Wendy is a fount of information and great ideas. And don't miss her exercises for you to try at home.

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Meet comedian, screenwriter, and blogger Ian Coburn, author of the very funny, best selling book "God is a Woman: Dating Disasters". Ian has been on a mission to learn about women and dating. He's tried every male persona he could think of--nice guy, player, bad boy, jerk, and finally good guy. In the end, what he found most was a much happier and balanced himself.

Join us as Ian shares his misadventures and the lessons he has learned. Listen in as Ian talks about his failures to find relationship, and his failures to hook-up , and what those failures taught. In this interview Ian will reveal the 5 Top Mistakes men make when meeting a woman and the 5 Top Mistakes women make when meeting a man. And don't miss Ian's simple exercise to help you avoid the "dating disasters."

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Meet Rebecca Deos, retired coutesan. For most of her adult life, while happily married and mothering her children, Rebecca has also been exploring various aspects of sexuality including swinging, polyamory, working as a courtesan and escort. At the same time, she owns and runs successful mainstream and adult businesses. Join Rebecca and I as we talk about the path from housewife to swinger to escort to courtesan. Listen in as we explore the lessons a coutesan has for women and the lessons she has for men, the insights about what is sexy, the "true confessions" her male clients share. And don't miss Rebecca's exercise for you to try at home.

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Every guest teaches me something. After more than 70 shows, some of those lessons have become deeply lodged in my psyche. In this episode I talk about 10 of my favorite guests from the past year or so, reviewing the lessons these guests taught me, and reminding you, listeners of some terrific interviews. Listen in as I talk about great moments from interviews with Alison Armstrong, Susan Campbell, Brian Swimme, Mary Roach, Esther Perel, Gay Hedricks, Celeste Hirschman & Danielle Harel, Byron Katie, Toni Bentley, and Daphne Rose Kingma. And don't miss the exercise for you and your New Years resolutions.

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Why do men go to Men's Workshops? Meet Peter Sandhill: personal development workshop leader, coach, counselor and educator; workshop leader of the ‘Love, Intimacy & Sexuality’ workshops for the Human Awareness Institute (HAI) in USA, Europe, UK, Canada and Australia; and, creator of the Joy of Being a Man workshop. Listen in as Peter and I talk about male "emotional literacy" and why it is often so challenging for men to understand, embrace and communicate about our feelings. We'll talk about what it means to "be a man" and the damage done by the cultural "be a man training" that teaches men to be John Wayne or James Bond but not how to be a friend, be a Dad, be a sensitive and caring partner, be the man we want to be. And don't miss Peter's terrific exercise for you to try at home.

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In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year fall into depression, anger, and addiction, Byron Katie woke up one morning and realized that all suffering comes from believing our thoughts. She saw that no one is separate from anyone or anything. Questioning every painful thought she had, she developed an amazing method of inquiry she called “The Work”. The Work asks four simple questions that turn stressful thoughts around. Working with a thought (asking these four questions in a disciplined, methodical way), you come to see thoughts aren’t personal. You discover that our own mind is causing our suffering, and you see around our thoughts to the choices beyond suffering. Join Katie and me as we talk about these four questions and the path away from suffering and towards love. And don’t miss Katie’s exercises for you to use to transform the suffering in your life.

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My marriage was over and I wanted a divorce. I’d had a “starter marriage” in my mid-twenties and when that ended we went to the lawyers and the lawyers won. Now my second marriage was done and I knew I didn’t want to do that again. Enter Eileen Barker, a family law attorney with a more loving approach to divorce. Eileen offered to mediate our divorce and I am forever grateful. In an environment of respect, where compassion and kindness could find their way into the proceedings, we actually managed to avoid the ugliness and cruelty of a typical divorce. Drawing on her background in law and psychology, Eileen is highly skilled in ensuring that each person in a dispute is fully heard, helping couples and families find workable solutions that respect each person's needs and sense of fairness. Join Eileen and me as we talk about the role of forgiveness in helping couples let go and move on. Eileen describes her philosophy and practice of dispute resolution and talks about the need for heart, especially when our hearts are hurting. And don’t miss Eileen’s gentle forgiveness exercise that you can try at home.

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Dr. Danielle Harel is a clinical sexologist, a pleasure activist and a professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Celeste Hirschman is an Assistant Professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality where she teaches the Sexological Bodywork Certificate Training. Together, Celeste and Danielle use a combination of talk and body-based coaching methods to support people in overcoming sexual concerns, expanding comfort and joy in their bodies, and achieving their pleasure potential. In this second of two interviews Celeste and Danielle talk about the relationship. Listen in as we talk about dating, looking for love in all the wrong places, and becoming the lover you hope to find. Join us as we talk about how to keep “the fire burning” in long–term relationships, how to deal with the changes brought on by time, and how to fully embody our innate erotic potential. And don’t miss Celeste’s and Danielle’s sweet exercise for you to try at home.

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Dr. Danielle Harel is a clinical sexologist, a pleasure activist and a professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Celeste Hirschman is an Assistant Professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality where she teaches the Sexological Bodywork Certificate Training. Together, Celeste and Danielle use a combination of talk and body-based coaching methods to support people in overcoming sexual concerns, expanding comfort and joy in their bodies, and achieving their pleasure potential. In this first of two interviews Celeste and Danielle talk about the transformative power of pleasure and sexuality. Listen in as we talk about erotic embodiment, full body orgasm, harnessing our true sexual energy to unleash the ‘great lover” that resides in everyone. And don’t miss Celeste’s and Danielle’s beautiful exercise for you to try at home.

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For over 16 years, Ken Solin, author of “The Key To The Men’s Room,” has worked with men to help them process their issues. In a conversation by and about men, Ken and I talk about men’s pride and pain, hopes and fears, failures and triumphs, in the service of learning how to be better men. Listen in as we talk about men’s anger, both misplaced and justified. We discuss the “be-a-man training” that leaves men feeling separate from each other, isolated and alone, with emotions we can not easily articulate. Ken is a passionate advocate for men and the power of supporting each other to heal our “father wounds”, to discover and speak our deepest truths, to become better partners, better parents, better men. And don’t miss Ken’s exercise for men to try at home.

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Meet Deborah Sundahl, international sex educator who specializes in teaching women and couples about the G-spot and female ejaculation.  Join us as Deborah clearly and candidly teaches what the G-spot is, what area it covers, and how to explore this area (as a woman) manually and with a sex toy. Find out the differences between clitoral orgasms and G-spot orgasms.  Learn why relaxation is such an important key to G-spot orgasms and ejaculations.  What happens if a woman feels the need to urinate? Do “gushers” feel as good as small quantities? Learn about the deeper emotional aspects of G-spot orgasms as well, and even the sacred links to higher consciousness of these orgasms.  And don’t miss Deborah’s exercise for you to try at home.

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Meet the remarkable Sarah Sandhill – Facilitator of HAI’s Sex, Love & Intimacy workshops, entrepreneur, mother, grandmother and creator of the “All About Sex for Women” workshop. Join us as talk about Sarah’s remarkable life experiences and her unique and empowering work with women. In a lively and candid conversation we talk about sexuality and aging, orgasm, healing the shame that is endemic in our culture, and opening to the power and beauty of women’s sexuality. And don’t miss Sarah’s self-loving exercise for you to try at home.

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In my work as a sex educator I meet hundreds of adults every year who experienced their introduction into adult sexuality as traumatic, abusive, violent, hurtful, shameful or just plain awful. We cry together and work on overcoming our rocky start. So how are we, as parents, going to help our own kids get a better start? Meet Debra Haffner, a parenting educator for more than twenty-five years, a practicing sexologist, and an ordained minister helping clerical organizations incorporate healthy sexual teachings and behaviors. With great clarity and candor Debra and I talk about the seeming epidemic of celebrity teen pregnancies, the opportunities all around us, everyday, for “teachable moments” with our kids, how to instill our values in teens, and how to be the kind of parent our children will talk with, instead of hide from. It’s a full, informative show with lots of great ideas. And don’t miss Rev. Haffner’s exercise for you to try with your teens.

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Nicholas Aretakis lived the life of the successful high-tech executive and single man-of-means until he was 42 when he met and married his Ms. Right. After he settled down one question about the dating scene he’d left behind nagged at him: Why do so many great women wind up in relationships with men who aren’t right for them? After talking to women, the guys in his social circle, business contacts, and doing lots of research he’s come up with a great book: “Ditching Mr. Wrong: How to End a Bad Relationship and Find Mr. Right.” Nicholas is a self-made millionaire with a direct, no-nonsense speaking style, and a simple, analytic approach to finding your perfect partner. Join Nicholas and me as we talk about how to screen out all those Mr. Wrongs. Our conversation includes developing a “dating litmus test”, recognizing some of the profiles of various Mr. Wrongs, the pitfalls of big differences in age, attitude and habits, and what to do if you find yourself “stuck” with Mr. Wrong. And, don’t miss Nicholas’ great advice for you use with your current dating partner.

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It’s almost a cliché, it’s so common – a couple starts out having lots of sex, most of it good, and lots of connection, most of it good. Then, over time, something changes. The sex isn’t as frequent. And when it happens it isn’t as good. Instead of feeling intimacy deepen and grow, intimacy seems to wither and die. Meet Dr. Oona Mourier: sexologist, counselor, shaman, wise woman, visionary, and co-author of "9 Secrets to Bedroom Bliss." Oona has a different paradigm for our most intimate relationships. Oona sees us embodying “sexual archetypes” and sees these archetypes as a kind of medicine wheel or Mandela, interconnected. Join us for a fascinating look into the sources of bedroom ecstasy. And don’t miss Oona’s exercise for you to try at home.

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Carla Tara is a powerful, internationally acclaimed Tantra teacher, relationship counselor, Love Coach and Intimacy Guide. Born in a small Italian village high in the Alps, Carla has turned her remarkable life journey into a collection of lessons and wisdom and, now, a book: “Lessons From A Tantric Tango Dancer.” Join us as we talk about relationship communication, the power of breath, healing sexual dysfunction, the illusion of security and so much more. Carla is a passionate and animated advocate of love, with a profound insight into transformation. And don’t miss Carla’s communication exercise for you to try at home.

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Every year, millions of American women experience Vulvodynia - chronic vulvar discomfort or pain, characterized by burning, stinging, irritation or rawness of the genitals. Vulvodynia can have a profound impact on a woman’s quality of life. It typically affects her ability to engage in sexual activity and may interfere with daily functioning, e.g., sitting at a desk, engaging in physical exercise, and participating in social activities. My guest, Dr. Laura Brodzinsky, is an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics/gynecology at Stanford Med School and has been running the Vulvodynia clinic at Stanford since 2002. Join Laura and I as we talk about the cause of vulvar pain, the different forms that Vulvodynia takes, the treatments available and places sufferers can find support.

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Everybody fantasizes. Some fantasize a lot, some hardly at all. M. Christian (Chris) makes his living setting his fantasies down in stories and teaching others to do it, too. Chris is an acknowledged master of erotica with more than 300 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many, many other anthologies, magazines, and Web sites. He is the editor of 20 anthologies including the Best S/M Erotica series, The Burning Pen, Guilty Pleasures, and many others. He is the author of the collections Dirty Words, Speaking Parts, The Bachelor Machine, and Filthy; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Brushes, and Painted Doll. Join Chip and Chris as we talk about erotic fiction: where it comes from, what makes it good, and how you can learn to write it. And don’t miss Chris’ exercise for you to try at home.

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What is sex, and who said so? Is sex procreation? Recreation? Chip August, pod-caster, interviews Chip August, workshop leader, personal growth coach, founder of the Relationship Effectiveness Institute, and world renowned sex educator. Listen in as Chip talks about what sex is and what it could be and what he's learned in the 20 years he's been working in the "relationship" world and in his own life. Then moving to the subject of relationship, Chip articulately lays out a model for relating that is filled with joy, loving-kindness and respect. Finally Chip shares his insights into jealousy and possessiveness. And don’t miss Chip’s transformative exercise for you to try yourself.

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What is “spirituality?”  What does sex have to do with spirituality?  What role does “ritual” play in our spirituality?   It’s a pleasure to welcome Francesca Gentille back to Sex, Love & Intimacy.  Francesca is a Sexual Shaman, teacher, coach, and host of Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra, here on the Personal Life Media network.  Francesca has a way of talking about matters of the spirit and matters of sexuality that is real, down-to-earth and accessible.  With insights drawn from Assanas, Breathing Techniques, Chakras, Kama Sutra, Mudras, Pujas, Quodoshka, and Tantra, Francesca's honest and candid conversation will touch your soul.  Listen in as we compare sexuality with cooking, and talk about finding our deepest connection to the divine while snuggled in a sleeping bag.  And don’t miss Francesca’s sweet exercise for you to try for yourself. 

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Charla Muller is a business exec and a mom and a wife and a 40-something women just like many of you and your friends. For her husband’s 40th birthday she wanted to give him something memorable – something that only she could give. She offered him sex every day for a year. Her book, “365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy” documents that year. Join Charla and Chip for a sweet conversation about one woman’s honest attempt to improve her marriage. Listen in as Charla talks about how the “stuff” everyone brings to a marriage can bear down on the relationship, intimacy and the desire to connect. This interview isn’t about the behind-the-scene details of their sex life, but rather a story about how a year of daily intimacy transformed a marriage. And don’t miss Charla’s exercise for you to try at home.

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My guest, Beth C, describes herself as a formerly well-behaved girl from a Southern town, who moved to San Francisco and found her orgasm.  Beth has a background in psychology and biology, as well as a license in massage therapy.  Beth is also an “urban monk”, living and teaching in community as part of “One Taste”, an experiential living environment committed to developing awareness that invites deep intimacy, sensuality and full connection with ourselves, our relationships, our spirit and our world.  In a warm and sweet interview Beth and I talk openly about the nature of orgasm and the possibility of living, 24/7, in an orgasmic state.  Listen in as we talk about quieting the mind, learning to “listen” to the body, and letting go of shame.  And don’t miss Beth’s exercise in pleasuring your own hands.

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Meet Peter Rengel:  Workshop Leader for the Human Awareness Institute, Author of “Seeds of Light, Inspirations form my Higher Self” and “Living Life in Love, Integrating Western Psychology and Eastern Spirituality”, creator of the “Spiritual Awakening Workshop” and the “Art of Being” classes, and co-creator (with his wife Donna) of “Becoming Better Friends and Lovers.”  Join Peter and I for a conversation about sexuality and spirituality.  Listen in as we explore the notion of living one’s life in love, 24/7.  Peter has an extraordinary ability to translate ancient Eastern mysticism into guidelines for everyday living here and now.  And don’t miss Peter’s exercises for you to try at home.

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Thirty years ago if a woman wanted to buy a vibrator to use to enhance her sex life, her choices were limited.  Some men went to porn and peep-show shops and picked something out for their partner.  Many women went to the local drug store and bought devices intended to massage muscle cramps (these devices were often surprisingly effective for clitoral massage, regardless of the photos on the box showing the device applied to a shoulder).  For most women, it was all way too embarrassing.  My guest, Joani Blank, decided to do something about this sorry state of affairs and, in 1977, founded “Good Vibrations”, the first woman-oriented, sex-positive, sex toy store (still in business today).  Listen in as Joani and I talk about women and sex toys, men and toys, as well as men and their relationships with their partner’s toys.  In an entertaining and informative half-hour chat you’ll learn a bit about how to find toys, how to use toys and how to make sure toys enhance your relationship.  And, as always, don’t miss the exercise for you to try at home.

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Satyen Raja believes that relationship, your relationship, is a path to a divine state of bliss, power, self-actualization and, perhaps, enlightenment.  Satyen is a living synthesis of Eastern wisdom and of Western practicality. Satyen is the Founder/President of WarriorSage Incorporated, He is a Shaolin Kung-Fu Master, an NLP practitioner, a holistic health practitioner – including Shiatsu and Chinese medicine, and the creator of and a trainer for the Zen-based Illumination Intensive and the Sex, Passion & Enlightenment workshops.  Our interview looks into the reasons so many relationships fail – the trap of infatuation, the seductiveness of sexual polarity - and teaches some paths out of those traps.  We talk about the yin and yang, masculine and feminine, and how they can enhance or deaden a long-term relationship.  Listen in as Satyen describes the 3 stages of love and how to create a love-based relationship that calls forth and supports your highest self.  And don’t miss Satyen’s exercises for you try at home.

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Doctors Barry and Janae Weinhold are mental health professionals who focus on identifying barriers to unconditional love and providing people with effective tools for removing them.  Authors of “Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap” the Weinholds offer a radically different approach for understanding and healing the problems associated with co-dependency.  In our conversation you’ll learn of the Weinholds personal struggle with co-dependency as well as the wealth of experience they have amassed in their more than 60 combined years of experience teaching, training and counseling.  Listen in as they describe their twelve step systematic approach to understanding and breaking free of co-dependency that begins with trauma in our youth, is nurtured by cultural norms and stereotypes and often misdiagnosed as “illness”. And don’t miss the exercise at the end of our program for you to try at home.

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What is “Tantra”?  We see the word used to describe a wide variety of classes, trainings and practices.  But what is it, really?  Meet Dr. Johanina Wikoff, a lifelong student and teacher of traditional Tantra and the transformative power of love.  Johanina is a master at interpreting, for the western mind, the esoteric Eastern texts and teachings known as Tantra.  Her Tantra is about revealing essence, peeling away conditioning and revealing the jewel of our essential nature, sharing the exquisiteness of being, the play of pure energy.  As Johanina explains it, Tantra is the subtle understanding, the consciousness of this.  Tantra gives this a particular language and form. The various teachings of the different schools of spirituality give different flavors of this experience.  Tantra is the yummy path in the school of consciousness.  And don’t miss Johanina’s two tantric exercises for you to try at home.

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This is part 2 of a two part interview.  Welcome back Alison Armstrong, author of “Making Sense of Men: A Woman’s Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men” and "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about how women can be strong without scaring away men, how to move past blaming each other and towards seeing each other as “wonderful”, how women can get men’s attention, affection, and love. And keep listening for a terrific exercise that might transform your love life.

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This is part 1 of a two part interview.  Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Here is an opportunity for women to rediscover men, while also increasing your self-esteem and potency. In part 1 of a two part interview, Alison Armstrong, author of “Making Sense of Men: A Woman’s Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men” and "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about a fundamental misunderstanding of how men communicate has created conflict and confusion in relationships. And keep listening for a terrific exercise that might transform your love life.

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Have you ever had a really great sexual climax, then spent days, weeks, or even years trying to figure out exactly what you did, so you could repeat it?  That’s exactly what happened to my guest, Dr. Patricia Taylor, author of Expanded Orgasm, (now in its seventh printing).  Dr. Patti is the host of the Expanded Lovemaking Show, here on the Personal Life Media Network, as well as the creator of the bestselling sex education DVD, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, an explicit, how-to guide for bringing a woman into a state of full-body, full being over-the-edge orgasm.  Join Dr. Patti and I as we talk about her life work discovering and refining sexual practices that expand orgasm, and her own ongoing intensive practice -  having had 3-5 extended, ecstatic Expanded Orgasms per week for over 15 years.  In our interview we talk about how couples’ sexual experiences can get hotter and juicier over time.  Dr. Patti talks about how often sex "ossifies" or dries up, but it needn't be that way.  As we look at the reasons sexuality often slows down, we talk about what people can do to prevent that, and how to make it get ever better.  And, as always, there’s an exercise for you to try at home that will add spice to your sex life.

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Interviewing Dr. Aron was like having a conversation with your favorite college professor about the psychological research being conducted around the subjects of love and intimacy.  Art Aron is an internationally acclaimed research psychologist.  He is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and serves on the editorial boards of Personal Relationships and the Journal of Personal and Social Relationships. He is a fellow of the American Psychological Society and Principal Investigator on a major National Science Foundation research grant. As we talked, Dr. Aron offered insights and answers that help in the understanding of attraction, relationship satisfaction, the psychological benefits of being in relationship, understanding altruism, defining the nature of self, looking at the concepts of merging selves and losing self.  We talked about the psychology of unreciprocated love and the motivations for intense romantic love.  And Dr. Aron gave me, and you, a great exercise we can do at home to help avoid the danger of relationship boredom and improve relationship quality.

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Meet Michele Newmark, Reichian Therapist and teacher for more than thirty years. According to Michele (and Reich), we humans spend an enormous part of our energy holding back basic needs and feelings which we've learned were not OK. Unreleased rage and/or psychosexual energy produce physical blocks within muscles and organs that act as a “body armor”, preventing the release of that energy. Reichian Therapy is a non-verbal "breathing" therapy. Whereas "talk" is a great way to avoid what you're feeling, there is no way to avoid your feelings while breathing during a Reichian Therapy session. Over time, chronically stiff and hard muscles that are blocking sensation and energy flow will soften. Eventually, the rage we hold in our muscles will surface, giving way to more feelings of pleasure, freeing blocked energy and sexual dysfunction. Join Michele and I as we delve into this fascinating therapy, and don’t miss Michele’s exercise for you to try at home.

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The study of sexual physiology—what happens, and why, and how to make it happen better—has been going on for centuries, behind the closed doors of laboratories, brothels, Alfred Kinsey's attic, and, more recently, MRI centers, pig farms, and sex-toy R&D labs.  My guest, Mary Roach, author of Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex (2008), spent two years wheedling and conniving her way behind those doors to bring you the answers to the questions Dr. Ruth never asked.   Can a dead man get an erection?  Testicles: if two are good, would three be better?  Does orgasm boost fertility?  Is vaginal orgasm a myth?  Is the clitoris a tiny penis?  Why doesn't Viagra help women—or, for that matter, pandas?  Join us for a fun and informative interview, and don’t miss Mary’s exercise for you to try at home.

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How’s your “erotic intelligence”?  How can you increase your capacity for pleasure?   My guest Kat Calderon is an extraordinary trainer and workshop leader, teaching ordinary people to have extraordinary sex.  In an open and candid style Kat talks about her own journey and sexual awakening.  Listen as Kat describes how she breaks through her sexual blocks, how she incorporates Tantra, communication, a sense of adventure into her sexuality, how she makes sex into the peak experience it was meant to be.  And make sure you try Kat’s exercise in openness for your own relationship.

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About 20 years ago, I was looking around a bookstore that specialized in “spirituality/new age” fare and a little book titled “The Key and the Name of the Key is Willingness” by Cheri Huber, jumped into my hands. I opened to a page at random and discovered it was not set in type, rather it looked hand-written. The words were direct, simple and clear, with no jargon and nothing “woo-woo” or “airy-fairy”. The writing immediately gave me insight into some of the sources of my suffering and showed me a path out. My guest, Cheri Huber, has been a student and teacher of Zen for over 30 years. She is the author of 19 books including There Is Nothing Wrong With You; Be The Person You Want To Find; Sex and Money…are Dirty, Aren’t They?; The Depression Book (she has been acknowledged as the country’s foremost expert on depression and spirituality); When You’re Falling, Dive; and her most recent, Transform Your Life: A Year of Awareness Practice. Join Cheri and I as we talk about the processes of learning to love yourself, developing unconditional self-love, living in compassionate awareness, and transforming our sense of separate-ness into connection. Listen in as Cheri talks about relationship as a path of spiritual growth and awareness. And don’t miss Cheri’s lovely exercise for you to try at home.

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Too often, when we talk about “couples therapy” we mean “talking about our problems, pain, anger in the hope that talking will make it go away”.  Meet Karen Finch, a marriage and family therapist specializing in Somatic Psychotherapy - an interdisciplinary field involving the study of therapeutic and holistic approaches to the body, the practice of mindfulness, body-oriented experiences, and the embodied self.  Listen in as Karen explains how individuals and couples work through childhood traumas and relationship obstacles in order to embody full adult sexuality, negotiate sexual boundaries in their relationships, communicate about sexual longings, and access their “Sensual Self.”  And remember to listen for Karen’s relaxing and restoring somatic exercise for you to try at home.

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Most of us have some basic knowledge of the “big bang” theory – that billions of years ago there was a singular event, the big bang, that created all the matter and energy in the Universe.  My guest, Brian Swimme has a doctorate in gravitational dynamics and is an expert on the mathematics of gravity.  But unlike most scientists, Dr. Swimme sees and articulates the relationship between these scientific events and the role of humanity in the unfolding story of Earth and Cosmos.  Currently a professor of Cosmology at the California Institute for Integral Studies (CIIS) Brian is a passionate and fascinating speaker who believes that the fundamental force in the Universe is “love” and we humans are here to make the Universe aware of love, to bring consciousness to love.  Please join us for a completely unique and hopeful view of the power and glory of love.  And don’t miss Dr. Swimme’s awe inspiring exercise for you to try at home.

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Are you a man?  Are you a woman?  How do you know, what makes you so certain?  Meet Jamison Green.  For as long as he can remember, Jamison has “known” he was a boy.  But Jamison was born possessing a female body.  ”The technical term is “transgendered” and Jamison is a fascinating and articulate advocate, author and activist in the field of transgender policy, theory and education.  Join us as we talk about his journey and his book “Becoming a Visible Man”.  And, we end with an intriguing exercise to help you discover your gender assumptions.

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As a child, my guest Toni Bentley, developed a passion for dance, ultimately landing a place in George Balanchine's New York City Ballet. In 1982, when she was just 21, her book ''Winter Season: A Dancer's Journal'' was published to wide acclaim. When a hip injury forced her off the stage, she found a new career as a writer. After 4 successful books, Toni had a life-changing sexual experience, which became the source for her memoir “The Surrender: An Erotic Memoir.” In a direct and forthright manner Chip and Toni talk about anal pleasuring and sex. Toni offers insights into her experience, which she describes as “transcendental.” Join us as we talk about the forbidden, the taboo, the dance between surrender and control. And stay with us for Chip’s exercise for you to try in the privacy of your own home.

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Sometimes it feels like the world is spinning madly out of control, one generation to the next. What was “naughty” in the nineties is “normal” in the aught-ies. Questions that never got asked in the sexy sixties are the ho-hum topics in today’s “blogosphere”. Meet Heather Corinna, freelance photographer, self-portrait artist, author, sexuality educator and activist, and author of “S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College.” Heather and I spend a lively half hour or so discussing sex education, the young feminist community, gender identity and politics for teens, “queer-ness”, and a host of ideas that your average teenager thinks about everyday. And don’t miss Chip’s provocative exercise about gender identity and roles, for you to try at home.

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According to my guest, Dr. Deborah Anapol, a new paradigm for LOVE is emerging at the dawn of this New Millennium. As we search for love in our lives, we often feel as though we’re on a journey without a compass—or even worse, with a faulty map. We are programmed from our earliest childhood experiences with scores of assumptions about love. We’re taught male and female roles, and ways of seeing ourselves, that may lead to separation, fear and mistrust. These many fallacies and misconceptions lead us to associate love with disappointment and pain. Join Chip and Dr. Anapol as she provides a warm, simple and universal guide to the principles that are common to all loving relationships. Dr. Anapol distills love down to its basic essentials and reminds us that love is not just a good idea, it’s the law. And be sure to keep listening for Dr. Anapol’s exercise that will reawaken the love and passion in you.

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Smell. Why do some people like a certain smell and others hate it? Is smell personal or cultural? How does smell affect our choices and our daily lives? Of the five senses, smell is the one we have the fewest words for. And yet, our sense of smell, and our reactions to and interpretations of smell, is essential to our physical and emotional well-being. Meet Dr. Rachel Herz, psychologist, researcher, faculty at Brown University, author of “The Scent of Desire: Discovering our Enigmatic Sense of Smell”, and one of the foremost experts on the sense of smell. Join us for a lively and interesting conversation about this little talked about area of human experience. Dr. Herz has great insights into how our sense of smell functions, what purpose it serves, and shows how inextricably it is linked to our survival. And don’t miss the great exercise Dr. Herz has for us to try at home!

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Why do more than half of US marriages end in divorce? Why are there now more single heads of households than married heads of households? What is “The Future of Love”? Meet “the Einstein of Emotions.” My guest, Daphne Rose Kingma is an expert on transformation and matters of the heart. In her book, “The Future of Love” she writes “…our greatest desire is to have our relationships return us…to the transforming and beautiful experience of love that first inspired them…” Join Daphne and Chip as we explore love and the power of bringing soul into our relationships. Listen in as we talk about the 10 qualities of a soulful relationship: self-awareness, aliveness, realism, honesty, generosity, empathy, forgiveness, thanksgiving, consecration and joy. And don’t miss Daphne’s deep, soulful exercise that you can do at home.

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There was a time, not so very long ago, when it seemed like no self-respecting woman would admit to knowing what a pole-dance or lap-dance is. But these days we see exotic dancing on TV, in the movies, at dance competitions, as well as at “Gentlemen’s Clubs”. Meet Catherine Rose: Teacher, performer, expert in the art and magic of exotic and erotic movement, pole dancing, and lap dancing. Join Chip and Catherine as we talk about this fun and exciting way to spice up a relationship. Catherine is an interesting and articulate advocate for every woman’s right to be sexy, to be juicy, to be – dare I say it?- slutty. And, of course, don’t miss Catherine’s simple, easy-to-understand exercise you can do at home to bring out your inner sex goddess.

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Meet Pala Copeland and Al Link. Sacred Loving is what they do, full time, both in their living together and in their working together. Al and Pala are relationship experts who teach committed couples how to create a lifetime of love through workshops, books, personal coaching, public appearances and their blog.

In our interview we find out what Al and Pala mean by “Tantra”, “Taoist Sex Practices”, “Kama Sutra”. We talk about the difference between “falling” in love and “creating” love to last for a lifetime or more. After more than 20 years of Tantric practice and more than 10 years as teachers, Al and Pala have great things to say about keeping the flames of passion burning indefinitely in your relationship. And don’t miss their sweet, simple exercise for you to try at home.

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Perhaps the biggest obstacle to creating meaningful long-term relationships between Men and Women is the cultural conditioning that seems to wound us and has us feel guarded and untrusting of each other. Meet Linda Marks, psychotherapist, life work counselor, social architect and author. Listen in as Linda and Chip talk about the emotional burdens associated with being male or being female in our culture. Based on extensive research, Linda has formed powerful theories and insights into the possibility of of what she calls "soul centered relationships." And, as always, stay tuned for Linda's sweet exercise at the end of the interview.

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Here's at little true/false test, written by this episode's guest Dr. Barry McCarthy, for and about men:

Penis size is the most important factor in sexually pleasing your partner.______
Men are supposed to lead, to run the sex show. _____
The best sex happens when you're single. ________
Women control men with sex, that's just the way it is.______
"Real" men are always interested in sex.______

Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, is a certified marital and sex therapist. With his wife Emily McCarthy, he has coauthored 8 books on relationships and sexuality, including /Sexual Awareness/ (2002), /Rekindling Desire/ (2003), and /Getting It Right the First Time/ (2004). Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy have authored /Coping With Premature Ejaculation/ (2003) and /Coping With Erectile Dysfunction/ (2004). How many "true"? How many "false"? Dr. McCarthy says...all false. Join Chip and Barry as we blow away a lot of the myths and misconceptions our culture promotes about men. Listen in as we learn "the truth" about viagra, etc. And don't miss Barry's great exercise to boost your sex life.
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Ever wanted a half-hour or so to talk to your doctor about sex, health and aging? Meet Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a staight talking, informative expert in the field of Sexual Medicine. Dr. Goldstein has been involved with sexual dysfunction research since the late 1970's. Author of more than 350 publications inthe field of sexual dysfunction, Dr. Goldstein has been a pioneer in the nascent medical discipline of Sexual Medicine, creating the first Department of Sexual Medicine in a major US hospital (AlvaradoHospital in San Diego). Chip and Irwin fill an interview with hundreds of fascinating medical facts about sexual desire, performance, and health. And keep listening for Chip's sexual health exercise formen and women.

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Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? Esther Perel, psychotherapist and author of _Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence,_ takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. And don't miss Esther's deeply insightful exercise during the interview. more.

What is "healthy" sex? Chip interviews Wendy Maltz, licensed clinical social worker, licensed marriage and family therapist, and certified sex therapist with more than 25 years of clinical experience. Wendy is the author of The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, coauthor of Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies, editor of two poetry anthologies which celebrate healthy sexual intimacy: Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure.

Wendy and Chip talk about the distinction between unhealthy and healthy sex by exploring the differences between obligation and choice, shame and self-esteem, power and empowerment, having sex and making authentic love. Wendy is eloquent as she describes the path from sexual abuse survivor to having a fulfilling sex life. And don't miss Wendy's terrifically heart-centered exercise.

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Dr. Karen Gail Lewis, has written six books and three ebooks and has more than 36 years experience as a family therapist. Join us as we talk about men and women and communication. Dr. Lewis offers insights into the different approaches to intimacy that often leave women feeling unheard and men feeling unappreciated. Talking in easy-to-understand language Dr. Lewis unravels some of the stylistic and biological differences in male and female approaches to intimacy, shame, approval and love. And don't miss the sweet exercise that you can try at home.

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Dr. Karen Gail Lewis, author of _With or Without a Man: Single Women Taking Control of Their Lives_, has written six books and three ebooks and has more than 36 years experience as a family therapist. Listen in as we discuss single women and how they can take control of their lives. This is NOT a show that approaches the single status as a problem, rather this is a show that helps women, and men, face the reality that, no matter what your dreams and plans are about relationship, at some time in your adulthood you are likely to be single. Learn some of the "tasks" we can undertake to create a fun and fulfilling life, alone or with a partner. This interview will give you hope and tools for making great life-choices. And stay tuned for Karen's exercise at the end. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode025-karen-lewis-different-view-of-being-single.html more.

Meet Francesca Gentille, host of "Tantra & Kama Sutra" on the Personal Life Media Network, teacher of Tantra and Sacred Sexuality, and self-described "Diva of the Devine". Listen in as Francesca and Chip talk about incorporating ritual and role-play into lovemaking. Francesca is an exciting and effervescent personality who talks openly about her own journey out of "addictive" love behaviors into a healthy, joyous sexuality. With insights drawn from Assanas, Breathing Techniques, Chakras, Kama Sutra, Mudras, Pujas, Quodoshka, and Tantra, Francesca's honest and candid conversation will give you some great ideas to try for yourself. And remember to listen for Francesca's exercise that you can try at home to help awaken your inner sexual shaman. more.

In the 1980's, as I was struggling to create the loving life-partner-relationship I so wanted, I found an amazing writer, teacher, healer named Gay Hendricks. His books - The Centering Book, Learning to Heal Yourself, Conscious Loving - all helped me redefine what is possible in relationship. Now it's my pleasure to bring a taste of Gay Hendricks to my listeners. Join us as we talk about "relationship harmony" and some of the steps to achieve it, as well as the power of wishing. Dr. Hendricks speaks with clarity about ideas like "Spirituality", "Consciousness", and "Genuine Love." And don't miss the exercise for you to try at home. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode023-gay-hendricks-conscious-loving.html more.

According to my guest, Michael Gilbert, "The everyday male is in trouble. It seems that manhood no longer requires preparation. Boys stumble without a map onto the pathways to masculinity, forced to learn by their own devices the essential traits and qualities of authentic manliness." And women aren't faring any better, "...women have been propelled into unfamiliar territory, encouraged or forced to support themselves and build careers in today's long stretch between puberty, marriage, and beyond. The contemporary woman has become a hunter as well as a gatherer." Listen in as Michael and I talk about the evolutionary forces that shape relations between men and women, discuss our current situation and reaffirm the need we all share for effective, nurturing, loving partnerships. And don't miss the exercise at the end of the interview. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode022-michael-gilbert-darwin-and-relationships.html more.

Does this sound like you? "One minute we're just talking and then suddenly we're in a fight." "All I'm doing is trying to tell you my feelings and you won't listen." Meet Kelly Bryson, psychotherapist, marriage and family therapist, author of _Don't Be Nice, Be Real_, and expert in an extraordinary communication technique called "Non- Violent Communication", also known as "Compassionate Communication". Join Kelly and I as we examine the ineffective and sometimes tragic ways that people use to communicate. Discover new techniques and approaches to communicating and listening to feelings and experiences. And don't miss Kelly's two exercises to improve communication in your life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode021-kelly-bryson-communication-as-a-path-to-intimacy.html more.

From the first time heard my guest, Bill Noble, reading poetry I was immediately transported by his his way with words and I think you will be, too. Bill is an award winning writer and poet (National Looking-glass award for poetry, nominee for the Pushcart prize), a Sex Educator, and an editor at CleanSheets.com, one of the finest websites for literary erotica. Bills poems and stories are sometimes soft and sexy, sometimes hard and fun, sometimes tender and sweet, and always interesting and entertaining. And don't miss Bill's exercise that you can do at home. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode020-bill-noble-poems-and-stories.html more.

When you ask social workers, therapists and family law attorneys why so many marriages end in divorce the two most common answers are - Sex and Money. Yet how few of us are comfortable really talking about money and finances with our most beloved. We argue and accuse, but rarely find love or intimacy in things financial. In this episode Anne Watts, a workshop leader and counselor in the areas of Sex, Love and Intimacy for more than 20 years, talks about the intersection of finances and intimacy. Listen in as she describes and discusses her workshop called "Financial Intimacy and Freedom for Couples." And don't miss Anne's exercise that you can do at home to enhance your financial intimacy, at the end of our interview. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode019-anne-watts-finances-and-intimacy.html more.

Teenage sex may or may not be more commonplace these days but it is certainly more noticed, studied and reported on than ever before. Babies are having babies. Twelve year old girls are acting and dressing like professional sex-workers. All the experts agree that what's needed is more education, more communication, more adult supervision and input. It would be nice if our schools could do it for us, but they can't. When will parents ever learn how to talk about sex with their kids? Meet Barbara Musser, workshop leader and creator of "A Day for Mothers and Daughters" a workshops for mothers and daughters to talk about sex, sexuality, biology and what it is to be a woman. Barbara shares her insights and teachings from years of talking to women of all ages. And don't miss Barbara's exercise that you can do at home, at the end of our interview. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode018-barbara-musser-sex-talk.html more.

Ever feel like you just don't understand the other gender? Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? In this second part to their interview Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Here is an opportunity for women to rediscover men, while also increasing your self-esteem and potency. Alison Armstrong, author of "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about how "feminism" and a fundamental misunderstanding of how men communicate has created conflict and confusion in relationships. And stay tuned for a terrific exercise for men that might transform your love life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode017-alison-armstrong-war-between-sexes-part-2.html more.

Ever feel like you just don't understand the other gender? Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? Join Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Alison Armstrong, author of "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her own amazing journey from being a "frog-farmer"-a woman who turns princes into frogs- to becoming a world renowned expert on understanding the conflicts and ending the separation between men and women. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about the conflicting desires and expectations that men and women bring into relationships and learn how to develop meaningful alternatives that actually enhance our relationships. And stay tuned for a terrific exercise for women that might transform your love life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode016-alison-armstrong-war-between-sexes.html more.

I saw the title of Dr. Debra Mandel's latest book and knew we just had to talk! - /Dump That Chump: From Doormat to Diva in Only Nine Steps-A Guide to Getting Over Mr. Wrong/, is scheduled for release in September of 2007, published by Harper Collins. Dr. Debra, relationship expert and renowned psychologist with more than 20 years of experience, is also the author of /Your Boss is Not Your Mother: Eight Steps to Eliminating Office Drama and Creating Positive Relationships at Work /(Agate, 2006) and /Healing the Sensitive Heart: How to Stop Getting Hurt, Build Your Inner Strength, and Find the Love You Deserve/ (Adams Media, 2003, and Airleaf Publishing, 2005). Dr. Debra and I talk about techniques for finding the love of your life, building successful relationships as well as identifying and ending "dead-end relationships." We explore the "dos and don'ts" of relationship including having healthy boundaries and healing the wounds we often carry into each new relationship. We talk about cheating, and how to rebuild the trust when infidelity enters your relationship. And listen all the way to the end of the interview so you don't miss Dr. Debra's terrific exercise to help you find and keep love. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode015-debra-mandel-searching-for-love.html more.

This episode Chip visits with Dr. Terri Orbuch, a.k.a. "The Love Doctor". Nationally known research scientist at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, psychologist, and Oakland University professor, author of 5 books on relationship, Dr. Terri Orbuch has studied the marriage and divorce and romance and relationship patterns of thousands of individuals nationwide for over 20 years. Listen in as Dr. Terri shares the insights from her decades-long study of hundreds of couples. Dr. Terri has great insights into the keys to successful relationships, and unlike so many in the field, she has the research to back up her ideas. Our interview covers Dr. Terri's wisdom a bout how to recreate passion in a long term relationship; what to do to re-establish trust when one partner lies to or cheats on their spouse; and, how to keep conflict from tearing relationships apart. And don't miss our end-segment where you'll learn an exercise you can practice at home to improve your own relationship. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode014-terri-orbuch-the-love-doctor.html more.

You hear it talked about in all the popular and tabloid media. "Sex Addiction." "Love Addiction." "Romance Addiction." My guest, Dr. Brenda Schaeffer, D.Min., M.A.L.P., C.A.S., is a licensed psychologist, a certified addiction specialist, and holds a doctorate in spiritual psychology. She has extensive training and experience in a number of psychologies including but not limited to child development, sexual addiction, and trauma. She is the author of 5 books including: Love or Addiction: The Power & Peril of Teen Sex & Romance and Is It Love or Is It Addiction?. Listen in as we try to discover if love is ever actually addiction or is that "addiction" label merely a way for one person to judge another person's feelings, behaviors, and desires. Dr. Brenda demonstrates a great ability to help us understand when love or romance descends into disease and offers her insights on the difference between healthy infatuation and obsession. If you've ever wondered whether there was something unhealthy about the way you "fall in love" don't miss this show. And stay tuned to hear a great exercise you can do at home. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode013-brenda-schaeffer-love-or-addiction.html more.

My guest this episode is show host, author and entrepreneur, Alissa Kriteman. Alissa appeared as The Dreamer on ABC’s reality show How to Get the Guy and is the author of Meet the Dreamer: Alissa’s Four Cornerstones for Living Your Dreams available on www.Amazon.com. Alissa brings a sassy and bold approach to all that she does. With a background as a Professional Life Coach and Relationship Expert, Alissa brings a wealth of insight and knowledge to her latest venture as the host of the hot, new podcast show, Just For Women: Dating, Relationships and Sex distributed by Personal Life Media, Inc. Join us in a fascinating and funny conversation about understanding men: their needs, wants, desires. Alissa has great insights into how women can avoid "turning Princes into Frogs." And we'll also talk about understanding women, helping women take responsibility for their femininity and sexuality. And don't miss Alissa's insights into what she calls "lovership", that place between "just dating" and "big-R-relationship". And stay tuned as Alissa leads us in a transformational exercise from her book. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode012-alissa-kriteman-understanding-women-men-lovership.html more.

Meet Sheryl Kurland, designer, speaker, columnist, author/editor of Everlasting Matrimony: Pearls Of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 Years Or More. Having interviewed 75 couples married 50-plus years across the country, Sheryl P. Kurland is the voice of the voices of experience the real-life relationship experts. Each piece of wisdom from the 75 couples provides a golden nugget that when connected together creates the pathway for you and your loved one to reach your golden anniversary and beyond. These couples represent a "sprinkling of America," from all different faiths, ethnicities and backgrounds, providing experience over analysis...the expertise of ordinary folks who’ve walked-the-walk and talked-the-talk. Listen in and learn the secrets to successful marriages. Whether you’re contemplating a relationship, newly engaged, planning your wedding or you’ve been married 1, 5, 10, 25 years or beyond, you’ll find there’s always more to be learned. Ms. Kurland is happily married and resides with her first and only husband of 17 years in Longwood, Florida. They have one daughter. Ms. Kurland is a graduate of the University of Georgia. And don't miss Sheryl's exercise for you practice at home. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode011-sheryl-kurland-everlasting-matrimony.html more.

This week Chip meets Dr. Susan Campbell, author of "TRUTH IN DATING: Finding Love by Getting Real", as well as "GETTING REAL: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life" and "SAYING WHAT'S REAL: 7 Keys to Authentic Communication and Relationship Success." According to Dr. Campbell, a leader in the honesty school of psychology, both research and experience shows that when you show up honest and real, you become more attractive and interesting. First, your relaxation has a disarming effect on others, creating a greater sense of safety. And then by going first in terms of speaking honestly, you inspire others to take chances. The result can be a strong and even sexy sense of excitement and aliveness in the moment. Dr. Campbell believes most of us would be more honest if we only knew how to communicate without fear of damaging the relationship. And don't miss Dr. Campbell's exercises for you to try out yourself. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode010-susan-campbell-getting-real.html more.

No matter how sexually compatible we are with our partners there are always differences in style, in emphasis, in personality. In this episode we learn about erotic "types" and personalities. My guest, Sage Vivant, sexual-personality expert and customized erotica entrepreneur, is the author of "Your Erotic Personality" the ultimate quiz for discovering your inner libido and getting the most out of sex. Listen in as Sage talks about how to identify and explore what she calls "your own unique libidinous imprint" - whether it's the "romantic", the "student", the "cuckold", the "watcher", the "top", the "bottom", and any number of wild possibilities. As a writer of customized erotic fiction, Sage has a lot to say about how to help you find your own erotic voice and style. more.

In this podcast Chip interviews Melanie Nayer, trend reporter, columnist for the Boston Globe and publisher for LifeTips.com. Listen in to the interview as they discuss intimacy and relationships, how to find the right relationship book for you, relationship and communication, and heightening intimacy through non-verbal communication. more.

What would you do if a stranger walked up to you and offered to share a hug? How many hugs a day do you get? How many would you like? From Muenster, Germany meet Ulrich and Anke, workshop leaders, trainers for therapists, artists, and big proponents of the healing power of hugging. Each month in several cities throughout Germany men and women participate in their "Cuddle Parties" - non-sexual, consensual, adult, hug groups. Additionally, Ulrich and Anke periodically take to the streets of Muenster (a city of 275,000 in Northern Germany) offering free hugs to the pedestrians in the downtown area. Many of us wish the world was a friendlier more loving place. Join us for a talk with a couple that actually are making that dream come true. more.

It's no secret that men and women frequently have trouble communicating. Trouble at home. Trouble in the office. Don't you wish you knew the secret to dealing with your boss' or spouse's anger? Wouldn't it be great to know how to use your feelings in your communication rather than be lost in feelings or be feeling-less? Chip's guest is a communications expert. A former radio journalist and reporter in Germany, since 1998, She has been an international communication and media coach, teaching women and men the secrets of what she calls "mindful communication." In her work with high powered corporate women and national media personalities, She helps her clients be authentic and honest while also appearing polished and powerful. Join us for some really useful lessons in using your feelings and your honesty to improve your relationship. more.

What does our spirituality have to do with our sexuality? Have you ever felt that you were capable of something more in your relationship but not sure how to get it? Join Chip and his guest Dr. Felicia Williams as they talk about the role of Divinity in our sexuality. Discover how to enhance the spirituality in your relationship, how to empower each other by finding and listening to your higher power. Dr. Williams is a PhD psychologist, university professor, workshop leader and a licensed spiritual counselor. Dr. Williams will touch your heart as she helps you experience the core of love that runs through everything. more.

In my private coaching practice I often hear complaints that sex has become boring or routine. In this episode of Sex, Love & Intimacy find out what really spices up our bedroom activities. Learn the secrets of the professionals for turning on your partner. Every year countless millions of dollars are spent, mostly by men, on various “personal services” including sexual massages and prostitution. Meet Gypsy, a masseuse specializing erotic and sensual massage. Describing herself as a sensitive, energetic, freckled, redhead in her 40s, highly trained in the art of touch, Gypsy believes pleasure heals the body, the mind and the soul. Listen in as Gypsy talks about FBSM (Full Body Sensual Massage) and sexual massage and speaks candidly and openly about all things erotic. Find out what men really want, and what it's like to give it to them. And, Chip's created a sensual exercise for you to try at home. more.

Everywhere you look today it seems like people are talking about sexual role-playing, spankings, and including fantasy as a part of good sex. The fashion industry often seems to be influenced by, if not run by, the leather fetish crowd. And did you see those movie ads for "Catwoman"? Ever wonder what all this fetish and fantasy has to do with you? Genevieve Bouvier is a dominatrix and performance artist. In this episode Chip invites Genevieve to give us a primer on fetish and fantasy, what it is, why some people are drawn to it and the safe and secure side of positive dominance and submissive play. In an open and adult interview we'll hear about using various "accouterment" for sensual gratification. It may not be for you, but it's still an interesting facet of human sexuality and one, if you understand it better, might be something you can gently incorporate into your own love play in some unique way. If you've ever been even a little curious about these subjects, here's a shame-free way to know more. And don't miss Chip's safe, erotic exercise that you can try at home. more.

In a wide-ranging interview, this world renowned radio personality, workshop leader and sexologist shares his vision. Stan Dale is the founder of the Human Awareness Institute (www. HAI.org) which, since 1968, has produced workshops on the subjects of love, intimacy and sexuality. Through his books, My Child, My Self and Fantasies Can Set You Free, his radio programs, his lectures and workshops Stan promotes personal growth and social evolution by replacing ignorance and fear with awareness and love, helping countless thousands of people to see themselves as potent, loving, magnificent Human Beings. Have a listen as Stan talks about lessons he learned living in a geisha house in Japan. Stan's comments on relationship are profound. His commitment to living each moment in love is inspiring. And don't miss Stan's recipe for keeping love fresh and alive. more.

Dr. Marty Klein is a Licensed Marriage & Family Counselor and Sex Therapist with more than 26 years of experience. Through therapy, lectures, writing, lobbying, court work, and media work Marty has aimed his entire career toward a single set of goals: telling the truth about sexuality, helping people feel sexually adequate & powerful, and supporting people in their healthy sexual expression and exploration. Listen in as Chip and Marty talk about sex therapy, healthy sexual attitudes and beliefs, public policy and America's "war on sex". With openness and candor, Marty challenges a lot of current theories about so-called sex addiction and love addiction, and reaffirms our right to not be victims. more.